Changing Your Perception

How you view the world around you is also creating what you believe and how you act or react to certain situations. I had so many clients in the last 3 months share with me the many things that seem to be coming up for them. A few common ones were noticing that they were having issues with family and friends. They felt after loving them and doing for them was unappreciated and that they now felt taken for granted. Another was that they had friends or family they really love and noticed they were in unhealthy relationships or situations and that they wanted so much for their loved one not to be hurt that they were having a hard time being around them when knowing their relationship or situation was going to one day be a perceived negative thing. The other common theme was people sharing they had friends or family who disrespected them and showed this by how they treated them or talked to them and that it was always like this but now they were noticing it more. I decided to write my thoughts and perceptions here in the blog since so many have brought this up, that hopefully this message will reach many more and assist you in healing this inside of you. One question was “If you give to someone because you love them and then they do not appreciate it or be there for you when you need them, how is that even energy exchange?” Giving from the heart is a choice and it is truly love when you do not expect something in return. Love is expressed with no strings attached. The love you put out in the world will come back to you and can come back to you in other ways, so there is always even energy exchange. Question two “I love my sister but her relationship is so bad and I worry she will be hurt. She can’t see it and I have a hard time being around them as a couple knowing she will eventually be hurt or break it off. How can I change this?” Nothing is good or bad; it is all just lessons and experiences in life to learn. If your sister/friend believes she is happy now, then support that she/he is feeling happiness in the moment. No matter how the relationship turns out, they hopefully will have learned many lessons from it. If not, they will get another opportunity to learn them again in a different relationship. We can find joy in someone feeling that they are experiencing happiness in the moment and have no judgment of how they choose to learn their lessons here. We are basing our feelings on what we perceive the future holds for that person’s outcome. Living in the moment is to see what that person is experiencing in the moment. If we react in the NOW for something in the future which may or may not happen we are missing all the greatness that is happening in the moment. Bless them and honor their way of them choosing to live their lessons out. Third question “I love my mate/friend/family member but I have grown and worked on self love and the way they treat me or talk to me is disrespectful. I have told them but they still do it, how do I deal with it?” We must be accountable that at some point we did let them treat us this way with no cause and effect. It is okay to grow and now not want to allow this in your life anymore, but since they are used to doing this and we allowed it to be alright, we must also give them a chance to realize we are different and we no longer will tolerate it. If they choose not to change this, the best thing to do is to put your hand up, say STOP! Then say I will not be treated this way, and if you choose to continue I am walking away from the situation until you can talk to me with respect. If they never do, then it is time to look at letting go of old relationships that you created as the old you. Now attract new people and relationships that match the new and healed you. Know though that you built the relationship on who you were then and so find love and healing in releasing these people in your life. I hope these tips assist you, I know so many have gone through these themes since October and it seems it will continue through Jan 2012, so having tools is a joyful way to walk through this. Anne Angelheart Learn more in this wonderful book: Twelve Universal Laws ~ The Truth That Will Transform Your Life http://www.amazon.com/Twelve-Universal-Laws-Truth-Transform/dp/145253697X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1322599357&sr=1-1