Commitment In The New Year ,Can You Follow The Simple Rules?

rnIf one of your resolutions for the New Yearrnwas to find, or improve, a relationshiprnthat you can be committed to rnthen it may be easier than you thought. rnCommitment in the new year,rnor anytime, isn't that hard to achieve rnbut you must follow some simple rules if you want to succeed. Commitment in the new year rnwill come down to one basic thing: rnare you really sure rnthat you want to make a commitment with a certain person? rnObvious, I know. rnBut do you have any idea how many people completely overlook this one simple rule? rnSo many people think they want to be in a committed relationship rnbut in many cases rnit isn't even about them and what they want, rnit's more about what they think they should do. rnFor example, when we get to a certain age rnwe are under a lot of pressure to "settle down". rnThe pressure can sometimes come from our parents, rnour friends and even society. rnIt's easy to confuse that pressure with our own wants and needs.rnMany times people will lie to themselves rnand convince themselves that yes, rnthey really do want to settle down when in reality rnthey don't want to but they feel guilty rnand feel like they are doing something wrong. rnWhen you do something, pretty much anything, rnjust because you think you should, rneven though you don't really want to, rnyou are just setting yourself up for failure. rnBefore you start going down the "commitment" road, rnstop and take a deep breath rnand make sure it really is what you want to do. rnWhile compromise is an important ingredient to any successful relationship,rnwhether a romantic one or not, rnthis isn't something to compromise on. If you really aren't in a placernwhere you want to be in a committed relationship rnbut you go along with it because rnit is what your partner wants rnor you are feeling pressured to do it, you will fail. rnA committed relationship can be challenging rnin the best of times and if it is something you don't even really want, rnit will be that much harder to keep that promise and truly commit to the relationship. Another thing to keep in mindrnis that too many people will tell you that "a relationship takes work" rnor "relationships are hard". rnHow many times have you heard that from someone? rnWell, I think that is wrong. rnI have been in both good and bad relationships rnand I can tell you that when you are in a good relationship rnit really isn't work at all. rnThere is very little need for compromise rnsince the two of you will see eye to eye on many issues. rnWhen you do need to compromise rnit is a true compromise where both of you give a little. rnNot what some people call compromise rnwhich is when only one person is doingrnthe giving and the other is doing most of the taking. rnMake sure before you promise to take the relationship to the next level rnthat you are truly in a relationship with rnthe best possible person for you. rnIncreasing your commitment in the new year rncan help you and your partner find true happiness rnand deepen the bond between you.rnJust don't go into it blindly or you may really regret it with time.