Couple's Prescription For Loving

You are the CEOs shaping your life together. Are you making it what you want? Do you know what that is? Open your minds and your hearts to craft and form what's best for you. How can you have a good relationship unless the communication is open? Be 'real' with each other! Someone has to go first. Be sure to hold open a safe space, each for the other. Neither is going to believe it's the same couple! Probably because it isn't. You are Learning to Love Better. Write out your vision and mission statement separately and then make one together. That's one for him, one for her and one for the 'and'. Decide which takes priority in each of your lives. Determine how much time, money and energy you will invest in the ‘and,’ this 'third thing,' the ‘between.’ Your relationship needs care to stay alive. Get a coach if you’d like, someone who can see what you envision for yourself, so they can support and cheer you along the way. Coaching can be in person or by phone (and writing too) or it can be a combination of all three. What activities/resources will be most helpful to support the 'and' at each point of your growth together? The possibilities are endless: workshops, recreation, books, music, study, fun, eating, smiling, making time for each other, making love to each other, feel what it’s like for the other, feel what it’s like for yourself, reflecting, respecting, sharing your ideas, shaping your dreams, talking, silent, getting coached, fooling around, walking, dancing, real moments, real gifts, doing laundry, making meals, being a couple, enjoying the children, looking back with gratitude, looking forward with hope, touching, tickling, being outside, staying at home, going apart, coming together, making it happen, trusting the process, tea parties, picnics, soft touches, sweet kisses, gentle words, kindly actions, laughing, crying, receiving gratefully, giving joyfully, side by side, resting in solutions, plans, surprises, email, snail mail, creating it, living it, sunrise, sunset, letting go, holding on, washing dishes, raking leaves, blessing him, blessing her, flowers, balloons, exercising, embracing, savoring, saving, sunlight, firelight, for-giving, for-getting, endearing, enduring, presence, presents, working at it, celebrating it, each giant step, each baby step, getting it right, getting it wrong, thinking what are the solutions? How can I make my love
feel cherished? What needs to happen here? What can I do to make it better? Learning to pray and to play together. etc. Can you see a theme here? Peacefilled, loving, joyful, who wouldn't want that in their lives? What do you want? What does it look like? How do you get there? Some challenges call for "Beyondz!" And when you finish, weaving and mending the fabric of your love, making this a spiritual relationship of strength and great beauty, what can you do to leave a Legacy of Love to other struggling lovers? I invite you to build ‘caring for others,’ ‘coaching couples’ and ‘sharing our story’ into your plans and dreams. © 2003 www.lynndurham.comn