Dating and Relationships: Woman Be Yourself

Women, be the person that you are in dating and relationships. Don’t be like someone you are not. Don’t change for the sake of a man.

Just like boys try to emulate men that they think are cool girls do the same with women. I have five sisters so think I have a little experience with this. Growing up they admired singers and actresses just as we admired ball players and musicians.

As they grew older they began to mature and become comfortable with themselves. And their personalities began to emerge. To their credit, in dating and relationships none of them have changed who they are to please a man. What you see with them is what you get. Whether it be good or bad.

This is the way it should be. The woman should be up front with the man right away. If you are not the kind of person who likes crowds then don’t go to a club to look for men. If you are the type of person who likes the nightlife then enjoy it. If you like spending quiet evenings at home in front of the television then that’s fine.

In dating and relationships each individual is unique. We all have traits that make us this way. For some women it’s their intellect. For others it is their wit. Others are creative and imaginative. Whatever you are, be that person and no one else.

Some men don’t like women who are independent. If that is they case, then find someone who does. You don’t have to give up your job or career for anyone unless you want to. If you want to be a stay at home mom then that is your decision. If you want to work for a living it’s your decision. In dating and relationships it’s best to be the person you are most happy with.

This is not being selfish. This is being true to one’s self. For years women did not do this. Many would accept whatever the man wanted them to be and change accordingly. There are many women who sacrificed careers and interests to raise families and there is nothing wrong with that. But often they did it without forcing the man to change. In the end she would become unhappy watching him live his life while she couldn’t live hers.

Thankfully times have changed in dating and relationships and women are more independent. This is a good thing. This allows you to be yourself and gives the man a chance to see your true self. The relationship gets off to an honest start and everyone can go from there.

So women, continue to be you. Be the funny girl, the intellectual girl, the shy girl, the computer geek. Be the woman that you want to be not someone else.

In dating and relationships, be yourself.