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Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself?

Topic: Relationship AdviceBy Tina B. TessinaPublished Recently added

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Dear Dr. Romance:

What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks?

Dear Reader:

Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. In addition to not managing your time effectively, there are many ways you can stop yourself from getting the most out of life—not enjoying what you have or have accomplished; not being able to get motivated, or finish what you begin; and having a negative focus, which leads to discouragement, anxiety, despair and even depression. "Getting Out of Your Way" and "Detox Your Life" which will help you change many inner roadblocks. It Ends With You, Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction contains exercises and information to help anyone clear up the unresolved issues that are behind self-sabotage.

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Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo
ia since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

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