Electrifying Orgasm: 5 Top Tips for Making Your Partner Want More Sex with You

Even though an orgasm is only a small part of the lovemaking experience, couples are always interested in how to make it better. They want to know the best sex positions, the best lubricants, the best sex toys, the best lovemaking techniques for exciting themselves to stronger climax.

But you can create intense sexual orgasm with nothing more than what you already own: your mind, heart, and body. As any sex therapist will tell you, sex is more than rubbing two bodies together to create heat. Sex is about your willingness to be open, having a partner with whom you have mutual trust, and staying both aroused and relaxed.

Here are 5 top tips for helping your partner have a better orgasm:

1. Make love in slow motion. Although there is something to be said for the brisk passion often displayed in films, slow is the way to go. When you slow down, your partner has the opportunity to experience all the wonderful things you are doing to their body. Start with nonsexual areas of the body first, like the arms and hands, and gradually move to more erotic areas.

2. Linger on one area of the body. It doesn’t have to be an obvious sexual body parts. It could be, say, a hand. Use a finger to trace all around your partner’s palm, then fingertips. Kiss the back of their hand. Lick and suck the tip of each finger. Paying passionate attention like this will make your partner tingle everywhere and prepare him or her for more erotic exploration.

3. Make eye contact. When you’re exploring your partner’s body, look up into their eyes. Let them know that you want to connect with them on an emotional level as well as a physical one. And smile once in awhile, show your partner that exploring their body is giving you pleasure, too. Now you’re increasing trust, so your partner can feel more sexually expressive when they have an orgasm.

4. Give a sexy compliment. Tell your partner how beautiful they look in the light, or how much you enjoy feeling their soft skin. Let your partner know how much you enjoy what they are doing to you, and how much it means to you that you are able to explore their body as well.

5. Build, then back away. This is something that many people enjoy—being brought to the brink of orgasm, then backing off. For some people it makes for a stronger, longer climax. You can use whatever technique you wish, because the important thing is that you are paying such close attention to your partner’s responses that you know just how to tease him or her to the edge. Of course, your partner’s responses may be very subtle; in that case, use a little signal to let you know they are close to orgasm.

Try these tips one or two at a time, exploring their potential. Then, use the ones that make your partner have the best and most satisfying orgasm, and your partner is almost certain to want more frequent sex with you.