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Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Having An Emotional Birth?

Topic: Self-Esteem and Self ConfidenceBy Oliver JR CooperPublished Recently added
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It can seem as though there is only one type of birth – a physical birth. However, along with this type of birth, there is also another type of birth, and this is known as an emotional birth.

The first type will allow someone to have their own vehicle, so to speak, and the second type will allow them to have a sense of self. So, when both of these births occur, they will be able to see that they are both an individual and feel like one.

Analogy

Another way of looking at this would be to say that the first type of birth will provide them with a vehicle and the second type will furnish it. Of course, having one’s own vehicle is important but what is also important is for them to feel comfortable whilst they are using it.

Still, even though someone will realise if they are driving a car that is or isn’t very comfortable, they might not realise if they have or haven’t been through an emotional birth. What this comes down to is that how they experience life can just be what is normal.

The Ideal

If they have been through an emotional birth, they are likely to have a felt sense of being enough, of worth, and lovability. Along with this, they can typically feel whole and complete.

Thanks to this, they are going to feel comfortable receiving good things as they will know that they are worthy and deserving of having their needs met. This will stop them from pushing good things away and sabotaging their life in the process.

One Area

Naturally, this will make it easier for them to not only attract healthy people but to also maintain close bonds with others. Once again, they will feel worthy of being seen and heard and being valued and receiving love.

Furthermore, due to how they feel about themselves, they won’t be looking for anyone to complete them. And, by needing less love, they are likely to end up receiving more love.

Resonance

This comes down to the fact that their outer world is mirroring back what is going on for them at a mental and emotional level. This is something that is expressed by the term, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer.

In this example, it shows how those that are rich internally attract more riches exte
ally and those that are poor internally attract more lack exte
ally. The same applies to love and human warmth.

A Different Reality

It is not that one person is being rewarded and the other punished; it is simply the law of resonance in action. On the other side of this experience will be someone who hasn’t been through an emotional birth.

As a result of this, they are unlikely to have a felt sense of being enough, of worth, or lovability. In addition to this, they can typically feel empty and incomplete.

The Outcome

They are then likely to feel uncomfortable receiving good things and they won’t know that they are worthy and deserving of having their needs met. This is likely to cause them to consciously and unconsciously push good away and sabotage their life in the process.

Consequently, they can often experience ‘negative’ thoughts and feelings and have the inclination to talk negatively to themselves. In this case, they won’t need to leave this planet to go to hell as they will often live in hell.

A Key Area

It goes without saying that this will make it harder for them to attract healthy people and maintain connections with those that are healthy. Quite simply, they won’t feel worthy of being seen and heard and being valued and receiving love.

To make matters worse, as they will feel empty and incomplete, they are likely to look to people to make them feel whole and complete. And, as they need so much, they are unlikely to receive a great deal.

A Bleak Existence

By experiencing life in this way, it is not going to be a surprise if they often feel angry and frustrated and helpless and hopeless. It could often seem as though the world is against them and that they are a powerless victim.

If they didn’t go through an emotional birth, they are likely to have been this way for most of their adult life. The truth is that they are not a powerless victim; it is that they were deprived during their formative years and this set them up to suffer.

Back In Time

Practically from the moment they were born, they might have often been neglected and, as the years went by, they may have been abused in a variety of different ways. Ultimately, a number of their needs would have rarely if ever been met and this would have deeply wounded them and stopped them from being able to grow and develop in the right way.

Their physical and mental self would then have grown but their inner self would have stayed in a developmentally stunted state. If they were born emotionally whole and complete it wouldn’t have mattered that a number of their needs were rarely met but they weren’t.

Awareness

If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for exte
al support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

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Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child and inner awareness. With over three thousand, two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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