Emotional Intelligence and Love

It’s a well known and accepted fact that human is the most complex creature on this planet. Sometimes his sight captures the depths of universe and sometimes his mind is busy in solving complex physical and scientific problems. Human in one way made a lot of developments. The matter and material have been his core fields of attention. It’s because of the reason that his mind works more efficiently in both the fields. He made wonders actually. The distance of several days, he can cover in few hours now. Being at one place, can watch around unlimited distances. Goes wherever he wants, Does whatever wants, everything and all resources, he made his slaves. They are always waiting for his orders to obey. They are not capable of saying NO to his intentions. Yes this is what we human are!
But there is a field, in which developments have been very slow. Rather it starts declining recently. If I compare today’s human and a human of several thousands years ago, they are almost same. Even the later is better in some aspects. The field is “spirituality”. So let me say that the recent developments are actually developments in luxuries, comforts and facilities. Human himself is still far behind. He did not make any appreciable progress in his inner self. Many immaterial issues still need his attention and explanations. No body yet could conceive exactly about the soul. No body could develop some software or algorithms, which could predict human behaviors. So still a lot is to be done in this field.
But here I want to discuss a specific human behavior which is directly related to human psychology. Let’s see what the matter is.
Emotional Intelligence: These words are quiet different from each other but many times, we use them together. It’s hard to find these both at one place and same time. So let’s see what we mean by the word when we use them together and what do we mean when we say less or more emotionally intelligent. Let me answer a basic question first then we will analyze it in details. The question is why emotions rise? Are they immaterial? The answer is they are not pure immaterial. They are rather semi immaterial. To every need, there is an emotion attached, either the need is material or immaterial. Like when we are in need of water, the emotion of thirst rises. When we are tired, the emotion of rest arises. Similarly hunger, pleasure, fear, love, affection etc are different emotions attached to various human needs. It’s quite understandable that these needs and emotions never end till human physical death. That’s the reason human is called emotional animal.
Intelligence is sort of analytical and compromising power by realistic data. It connects human with exte
al environment. It’s responsible to give long term logical solution to human being. A very simple example will make intelligence clear. When the emotions of hunger develop in me, they would be communicated to my different biological systems and I will start to eat something. The job of intelligence is now to tell me that what I should eat, how much should I eat etc. As we see that job of emotion is to communicate the needs and intelligence keeps check and balance. Like if I start eating and eat to a level, which would become medically harmful, it means there is some problem with my check and balance (intelligence) system. Here I would like to conclude that emotions will rise always as needs never end, but if there is no proper check and balance, they will drive us towards irrational ways. Another important conclusion is that emotions have no conce
with intelligence; they are to rise always as they describe a need, but intelligence has to deal with emotions. Intelligence actually gives human a social face. So hunger doesn't mean eating all the time. Intelligence says that it must be according to some schedule and discipline.
Emotional Intelligence now means that how our analytical and compromising power resolves and deals with emotional issues with the help of facts and figures. Let’s explain love. First we should know the need associated with this emotion. Some philosophers have very interesting point of view. They say love has nothing to do with any need. But I differ with this point of view. I will try to explain this concept with psychological aspects. Let’s raise some questions which will help us to understand my point of view.
• Why a mother loves more her own kids than others? Why her feelings attached to her kids can’t be created in her for others??
• Why sometimes we feel the need of attention, affection and love? And feel better to meet the person we like?
• Why we want to remain physically close to the person whom we like?
Among all the questions, one factor is common that is presence of love in different forms. Which clearly indicates the psychological and physical need. The factors behind the need are natural human structure, aesthetics and need of attention. All these factors accumulate to create the emotion of love. The various steps and conditions of love are beyond our discussion.
Now let’s see the role of intelligence in love. Of course it plays an important role. It tries to convince to whom we should love and to whom we should not. It tries to create a real, emotionless, factual, rationale and mathematical environment around us. It tries us to remember that 2+2 = 4 not less and never more. This power some times wins and sometimes loses. It depends how emotionally intelligent we are. Otherwise love can be listened, watched and felt.
But here we come across some interesting thing. That is either emotions dominate or intelligence wins, the soul suffers in both the cases. Actually when we attach our affiliations with something, the emotions create an ideal world around that thing, where everything is ideal and perfect (it’s another human nature aspect, the love for perfection and completeness). On the other hand intelligence creates a rationale world around the same thing. Normally and practically speaking neither anything is pure ideal nor the events happen according to rationale, so what suffers is soul. Sometimes my sympathies rise for the souls who suffer all the life due to the deeds which are not totally done by it. But to say that don’t build ideal world, nothing is perfect, is very easy. But to accept it, is not easy task for emotional animals. So sometimes I think that love is risky business but unavoidable I believe. So can the modern technology over come this emotional problem? Of course not. This is the field, where humans may need still thousand years