Emotional Wisdom – Part 2

During these times of accelerated expansion and growth, it is crucial that we develop a conscious relationship with our emotions. It is imperative we: become aware of, understand the causes, and learn new skills in order to transform our emotions. rnI feel there is a personal as well as collective affliction we suffer from – that of emotional illiteracy. rnMost of us have been raised in such a way that we are insecure about our emotions. We either become overwhelmed by our emotions and we run away from them, or we indulge them and collapse into them. In either case, the force of our emotions has control over us. rnThose of us who are consciously engaged in the re-awakening our wholeness and aligning to evolution have to become masterful in how we respond to our emotions. If we don’t, we will continue to feel overwhelmed, confused, and intimidated by the energetic and somatic experience of the emotions. rnWe learn to master our emotions by making them conscious: rn1. Developing self-awareness and engaging in self-inquiryrn rn2. Transforming them by extracting the core meaning/learning behind themrn rn3. Integrating the core meaning in order to accelerate our growth. By learning to master our emotions, we restore the balance between our conscious mind and our emotional body, and we will become leaders of our natural impulses, our life, and our relationships with others. rnEmotions As Gifts Of Wisdomrn rnEmotions are the means we can come into union with different parts of ourselves. The unconscious parts of ourselves communicate with us somatically, through our emotions. Emotions are not something that “happen” to us… they are the longing, the call or the roar of the forgotten places inside of us. Ultimately it is our soul’s yearning to awaken and evolve. How we engage with them determines the nature of the relationship we build with ourselves, with others and the world. Most of the times, what produces more pain is: 1. The automatic avoidance of emotions; 2. The self-judgment around having certain emotions; 3. The guilt/shame we experience when we unconsciously strike out emotionally. These ways reinforce the split and the lack of love we have for ourselves. rnWhy would I be angry, ignore or judge myself for feeling, hurt, anger, sadness, etc.? Why would I perpetuate hostility, animosity and disconnection from myself? Learning another way of relating with myself requires that I respond to my emotions from a more mature and wise part of myself. It requires I develop the ability to distinguish between myself and what my self is trying to communicate to me through the emotions. It requires acceptance, trust and compassion for myself. It requires honoring and loving myself, and being devoted to the goodness of life, in order to move into the place of higher understanding. rnI have been able to navigate through the intense grief at the loss of my precious son by engaging my emotions from a place of profound self-love, reverence, awareness and compassion. I have moved towards the “grieving part” of my self, engaging with “her” with tenderness and acceptance. This deliberate way of relating with myself has generated a spontaneous opening in my mind, heart and soul, in turn, opening the doorway to the deep truth of Being. From this perspective, there is no loss; there is only continuous enfoldment of love and oneness.