Falling in Love, Romance and Love Poems: Are They Possible via Long-Distance Chat?

Who doesn’t dream about falling in love, meeting “the one and only”, having a “once-of-a-life-time connection” like in the fairy tales, the movies, and TV series?

At times the modern technology and the social-media provide all these. Just touch the key-board and YOU’RE CONNECTED!

When such great love – as fantasized and dreamt about – materializes, you feel in heaven; you tell yourself: things couldn’t have gone better. You are so excited you want to run and sms all your friends.

BUT IS IT REALLY “A DREAM COMES TRUE”? OR COULD IT BE THAT…

The following short story – or shall we call it “a real life anecdote” – tells about it. It might have happened to you – or to people you know:

Lying in bed she read the love poems he’d sent her day after day. So many. All filled with love, honest and touching. Was there ever anyone who loved her like he does? Who wrote ever such beautiful poems, for her and about her?
“Write me a poem,” she told him once, semi-joking, in one of the long chats they had during the last few weeks. And she still remembers him answer: “fine, I’ll always do whatever you’ll ask me.”

It was then that the poems began to stream in: poems of love and romance; short and long; some rhymed, some not, many passionate and erotic. Does he love her so much? Desires her so much?

What a wonderful feeling it was! One day he’ll arrive at her place and they’ll experience together all those wonderful things he has been writing about in his poems. One day, since currently he is overseas. If she has found any comfort in the geographical distance between them it was that the distance allowed him to express, openly and freely, everything he felt towards her, everything that has been developing between them since the day she responded to the ad in the internet site, just like that, for the first time in her life.

Soon she became addicted to his daily poems like a prisoner to weekly visits. And who wouldn’t? Night after night to read poems which warm her heart and arouse her femininity. After surviving so many dry and lonely years...

Every night, upon going to bed, she took with her the leather folder where she placed all the printed poems. Lying in bed she read and re-read them time and again, trembling with happiness and desire. The depictions, the images – nothing was left for the imagination, yet all was left to her fantasies. Reading his poems she felt how her heart expanded endlessly. Isn’t this love better than all the adventures her friends were telling her about? Has any of them ever dipped in a deep and lucid sea of such poems?

In another city, or maybe in the same one, a woman is going to bed, taking with her a collection of poems from her love
who’s overseas on a sabbatical leave.

And yet in another city, near-by, or maybe far away, yet another woman goes to bed at night, her heart filled with poems.

They shut their eyes.
They breathe the words and whisper his name…

DEPENDENCY, NEEDINESS AND FANTASIES

If you take a minute to think about the woman (or women) depicted in this story, some of the words which come to mind are: falling in love, romance, dependency, neediness and fantasies.

If these sound like key words, they indeed are. They are key words which describe a person who has such deep need to find love and have a partner that she behaves in a way which for some might seem like a desperate one: she literally “falls in love” with someone whom she never met, due to her loneliness, neediness and dependency. She therefore doesn’t even consider, not even for a minute, that something might be “strange” about their correspondence. Is it really possible that a man she’s never ever met will send her poems so romantic and erotic, so “tailored” for her? Is it really possible that she’s become his “object of desire” – without him ever seeing her?

She continues to fantasize about him, not allowing herself to think, even for a minute, that something is somewhat odd; strange; suspicious. On the contrary, she falls vehemently into the web that he created and really expects him - upon returning from overseas – to come directly to her.

WORKING ON DEPENDENCY, NEEDINESS AND FEAR OF LONELINESS ISSUES

As you take the time to think about the woman in this story, you are likely to realize that:

* Regardless of how often she might have heard her friends telling her to stop for a minute before she “falls in love”;
* No matter whether she’s already gone to some therapy sessions or not; and
* Regardless of whether she’s read books on relationships and/or has gone to relationships workshops –

As long as she is not able to work on her dependency issues, neediness and fear of loneliness, she is likely – unfortunately – to find herself, time and again, “falling in love” with people passing by, and continue being single…