Feeling Self-Conscious? 6 Tips to Turn it Around Fast!

When you feel self-conscious it means you are putting too muchnattention on your self, too much focus on what you are doing andnhow you are doing it. And this is a formula for poor performance.

The secret then to dealing with this problem is to become othe
conscious.

If all you do is shift your focus from self to others you willncommunicate better, perform better and become a far bette
listener.

Another positive consequence is that other people will enjoynspending time with you because it is so obvious you give themnyour complete attention.

Your goal is to become so fascinated by other people that you
focus is on what they say, how they say it and why they say it.
6 Tips for Becoming Other Conscious:

1 Pay attention to the way people breathe, watch closely andnobserve the relationship between breathing and speaking.
2 Listen not just to what people say but the way they say it. Paynvery close attention to speech patterns, changes in tempo,nvolume and tone.
3 Ask thoughtful questions to understand the way others think.
Really strive to grasp why others think what they think.
4 Whenever your focus shifts back to the way you are behaving asknyourself questions about the other person so you need to paynattention to him e.g.nn- What does he really mean by that?nn- How does he manage to be so boring?nn- How does she keep people so entranced with her words?
5 Use your imagination to change your mood and to keep your mindntoo occupied to be self-conscious.

You could for example imagine that the people you are talking tonare wearing no clothes or inappropriate clothes. Why not havensome fun, feel good and still enjoy a good conversation?

You owe it to yourself to find as many ways as possible to feelngood. As I have said before excellent communication skills arenmore dependant on your mental and emotional states than on cleve
language patterns.
6 Use affirmations to condition a new belief about your abilitynto be relaxed and other conscious. For example:nn- I am fascinated by the way people talkn- I give my complete attention to whoever I talk ton- I am an excellent conversationalistn- I feel fantastic when I meet new peoplen