Finding the Truth in the Unexpected Happening

Let's face it, throughout our lives we do the best we can do based on what we feel we are capable of. We do our best to get things right. We ate our vegetables, studied hard in school, learn to love, got married to our sweetheart, went out and got a good jobs. We then raised smart kids, and saved for our retirement. Yet somewhere along the road of life there are, cracks and potholes in the pavement that we had to maneuver around in order to avoid. There were turns and twists along the way that challenged us. There were falling rocks, drunk drivers, and sheer mountainside drop-offs that frightened us. And there were detours and forks in the road that took us away from our destination: a goal of a happy and fulfilled life. We don't recognize it but all roads lead to one place... a coffin at the end of it all and we are all racing towards it. There is no place of happiness and fulfillment to travel to. We are already there or we are not. Happiness and fulfillment is not a place to go it's a way of being in the now. Trouble comes not as single spies, but in entire legions. ~ Shakespeare Things don't always turn out the way they do no matter how hard we try and we are left on the side of the road, dirtied and shocked at what happened to our lives and we're desperate for answers. Many times we are not just shaken by just one trouble; many times it comes in groups. Job loss, then foreclosure, then divorce, then loss of custody... It happens to the worst of us and to the best of us. No one is immune to the unexpected. We are all either warriors or victims to the sudden shock of unexpected change, of frightening beginnings and endings and of the feelings of disappointment that life always seem to throw our way. And no matter how hard we pray or how much we give to charity or how good we think we live our lives, those nasty disappointments always seem to present itself. We religiously went to the health club and ate organic foods, so why did we still get cancer. We made tasty dinners, gave great sex, cleaned the house, brought "home the bacon," so why did our spouse still leave us for someone else. We are left wondering "Why me?" We cry "I don't deserve this. Why God, oh why?!" We search for answers but there is none. It never comes when we cry for it and ask why. It comes to us in the silence when we lovingly accept our "unexpected happening" as a gift. A gift of wisdom. "Even the most daring and accomplished people have undergone tremendous difficulty. In fact, the more successful they are, the more they attributed their success to the lessons learned during their most difficult times. Adversity is our teacher. When we view adversity as a guide towards greater inner growth, we will then learn to accept the wisdom our soul came into this life to learn." ~Barbara Rose In the silence of our acceptance, we find clarity and insight. When we no longer see ourselves as victims of life. We begin to see how we are co-creators, co-conspirators alongside with the universe, or God, in designing our lives. We become victors when we open our eyes and see our "unexpected happenings" as a necessary detour that is redirecting our lives to something more wonderful than could have ever imagined. We shut our eyes tight when the "train hit." Unfortunately, many of us keep them shut and we disconnect ourselves from reality by blaming, anger, denial, and depression. We prolong the suffering with drugs, alcohol, and reversion to the same old behaviors. But those who are willing to be courageous open their eyes to see that after the smoke has cleared and learned the lessons to be learned that the world is a brighter place. The courageous see that they have been finally reawakened, re-birthed, and transformed. Their lives re-ignited and re-invigorated. They see themselves as the mythical Phoenix, a red flaming bird that rises from its own ashes of destruction to live again. They find not sadness but joy for a lesson learned in their "unexpected happening." They accepted the wisdom their soul came into this life to learn. Those of you reading this article may be going through a period of change in your life. Changes that's undoubtedly causing you alot of grief and sadness. You question life and contemplate the "Whys." Its natural for you to feel that you are self-destructing and falling apart. I see it like an little airplane made of lego blocks that my young nephew plays with. One moment it was a pile of loose blocks, awhile later it was made into an airplane. The next day he took it apart, and rebuilt it again this time a little differently than it was the day before. That is your life. Life gets taken apart, but it can be rebuilt. It can be better, life can be bigger, but only if you choose it to be. It starts with knowing and believing that there is a jewel of wisdom, insight, and revelation waiting for you. A wisdom that will rebirth you into new beginning. A wisdom that empower you to live a life you were meant to live. Today, believe that the wisdom you will find will be result of the destruction it was birthed from. Once you open it, and find the gift, the miraculous will present itself. A better job, a bigger home, a more wonderful relationship, awaits not for those in despair but for those who've opened their eyes to accept the wisdom.