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First Date Advice For Women: What You Should, And Should Not Do On Your First Date

Topic: DatingPublished September 21, 2012

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For the most part, women are somewhat anxious or uneasy before going on a first date with someone new.

Ladies, the following tips will ease your worrisome nerves, calm your fears, and give you enough confidence to relax and have a great time. You never know - this person may turn out to be your future best friend or maybe even your new spouse!

1. Try Not To Figure Out If He's "The One" Or Not

Keep in mind this date is all about exploring possibilities and the having the joyful experience of meeting someone new. It is not about quietly ticking-off boxes inside your head as you progress through your date.

Who cares if he's "the one" or not - tonight is simply about enjoying yourself and having fun.

2. Never Bring Up Past Relationships On A First Date

Some women tend to dwell on their past relationships and may actually be too honest when it comes to certain issues. It's not that men don't care, but on a first date, try to keep these matters in the closet.

Everybody has a past, including your date. Wait until your relationship has progressed and he specifically asks you about those matters.

3. Let Him Do Some Of The Talking

Let your date talk about himself and his interests instead of spending the majority of time boasting about yourself. Pay attention to what he has to say and listen to him.

This will assure him you are interested in him and will make him feel important.

4. Let Him Know You Appreciate The Effort He Put Forth For The First Meetup

Your date took the time and energy to arrange a nice time for the both of you. Always say thank you immediately after the date has ended. Those two words mean a lot. Tell him what a good time you had and you appreciate the effort he put into your date.

And it doesn't just end there. Give him a call or text the next day to thank him again. It's just plain good manners, and a friendly gesture to show your gratitude will go a long way.

5. Shut Your Phone Off

This is an obvious tip, but surprisingly many people forget.

Be sure to turn your phone off, or at the very least, put it on silent mode. It's very irritating and disrespectful to be on a date (especially a first one), and have a constant stream of calls coming through.

If you anticipate an important call from someone and you must answer it, let your date know in advance so he will be prepared. If you are talking on the phone or texting during your date, this sends the signal you're not interested in him or the date itself. But aside from that, it's very rude.

6. Give Him A Chance To Make You Feel Wonderful

In most cases, someone you are going out with on a first date tries to make you feel special and appreciated. Make the best of it, and give him the chance to express his enthusiasm.

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