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Grieving Advice Tips - When Death Hurts, an Uplifting Perspective

Topic: Grief and LossBy Ken MatthiesPublished Recently added

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From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller

My wife came home from the office last week with a discovery from among her filing which has brought me much comfort as the still healing father, son, brother and friend that I am.

The simple beauty and imagery of these words has cast a new and profoundly peaceful outlook on the journey of all those whom I’ve lost throughout my life to dying – and eased my pain.

Whether you’ve seen this before or not, read it for yourself and take hold of the comfort and easing of pain it offers you as well within the beauty of its perspective…
- Dying -

I am standing at the seashore.

A ship spreads her sail to the morning breeze and starts for the ocean.

She is an object of beauty, and I stand watching her until at last she fades on the horizon. Someone at my side says, “She is gone”.

Gone? Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all – The loss of sight is in me, not in her.

And just then, at the moment when someone says “She is gone”
There are others who are watching her coming. Other voices take up the glad shout, “There she comes!”

And that, my friend, is dying.

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About the Author

For almost forty years of his life Ken Matthies has been a writer and chronicler of life expressed in poetic form, following the family tradition laid down by his grandfather before him.

Faced with the dramatically life altering experience of his helicopter pilot daughter’s sudden death in 2002 he has grown to also become a literary author of true events based on his own life. Though grief opened his literary doors it is the Light of Love and Memories supplying the fuel of inspiration to write through them.

As a second-chance dad given the opportunity to verbally share his life stories with his newly rediscovered daughter it was she who told him that she believed him to be a ‘worthy man’ after having heard them, and who encouraged him that they should be shared in written form beyond her own life – not yet knowing as she said it that she was soon to leave him behind. As a bereaved father and writer learning how to live life again in the Light of his own Love and Memories of his daughter, he writes those stories now as a testament to her belief and faith in their value.

His full length book entitled "How to Survive the Death of a Child - A Father's Story of Healing Light" was the first of these stories which he wrote in the Light of those Love and Memories.

He lives in the solitude and grandeur of a tiny southern Yukon village with his Tlingit native wife Skoehoeteen and the successor to their venerable old Tahltan bear dog Clancy Underfoot, who now happily awaits them at the Rainbow Bridge in Doggy Heaven. She’s a new female puppy named Hlinukts Seew which means ‘Sweet Rain’ in the Tlingit language, a wonderful phonetic variation in memory of Clancy’s name who was also called C.U. for short. It’s a good place to tell those stories from.

You can read more of Ken's writings and find his Amazon Kindle book at www.kenmatthies.com.

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