Have A True Relationship With Anyone!

Be in any relationship or conversation with ease and joy!n
In Natural Law™ we are naturally connected and in communication with ourselves and others. We do not need validation and justification. Therefore, we are free of need. Desire then guides us in the doing of life. Now free of having to do and not having to do, we are free to have life regardless of the doing. We are not created by the results of our doing. We are now free to have a complete and whole relationship with ourselves and subsequently any one else we choose. n
True relationship is established and held by taking a stand for relationship in the absence of:nn • Conflicts of personalityn • Pre-existing conflictn • Who people have beenn
As you step out of the past and see people and yourself newly, you can begin to create the following:nn • See people for who they can be. n • Express yourself in a way that frees you and encourages others. n • Create a model of experience that causes desired eventsn • Be with people not against themn
Now that you see how simple it is, let’s distinguish each of the above points.n
Eliminate:n
Conflicts of personalityn
A person’s personality is includes a set of defense programming instructions declared by that person at times in the past when perceived safety was in question. These instructions were declared to prevent any reoccurrence of these perceived events. Unfortunately, protective measures keep the fear present.n
Pre-existing conflictn
Conflict is a perception that occurs when two or more people seem to be saying or wanting something different from one another. Many disagreements are simply misunderstandings or derive from conflicts of personality. Even if there is a legitimate disagreement, we can still disagree without conflict or invitation to emotion.n
Who people have beenn
We judge a book by its cover. If we ever get past the cover we judge the book by our least favorite page in the book. Simply look forward to all of the pages you haven’t read yet. And if you jump to the last page, you’ll find it hasn’t been written yet.n
Include:n
See people for who they can be. n
People are like snowflakes; each one is unique. And each one can be anything you choose it to be. Be a demand without being commanding for what you will see in another.n
Express yourself in a way that frees you and encourages others.n
People talk, converse, and complain, but generally do they not communicate, as in communicate with nature. I don’t know why not; people are part of nature. Talking is just validating and justifying who a person is in the world. Conversing is done to sway or turn a person’s viewpoint; getting a shared agreement on an issue is just another way of validating your worth. Communication is the expression of your real being; what you really are in the world. What you are up to that serves you and others in a positive-expanding way.n
Create a model of experience that causes desired events.n
Events do not cause experience, no matter how much this feels true. We default to an experience of being from our past and then look for proof. Naturally, the right events come along to prove ourselves correct. We are dealing from a stacked deck. Relax your breathing and your mind and choose an experience of being. The proof of evidence will then come in the form of events conducive to your true being and purpose in life.n
Be with people not against them.n
There are three themes in novel writing:nn • Person against personn • Person against naturen • Person against himself or herselfn
This is fine for writing a novel, but so fine for living in the world. We are not against anything. Image that being against something is like being so close to a wall or object that you are literally rubbing against it. Space is limited and all you feel is a lot of friction. Don’t be against anything. Don’t be so close you can’t breathe or feel life. Be with things. You can still disagree and still be with something or someone. Be with, not against.n
In conclusion, don’t let your past safe-keep your future. The job of the past is to maintain the past. We don’t know the future, so have a little courage and make the future. You can’t create the future if you are already predicting it. Simply be newly with yourself and everyone and be with them and not against them. There is nothing to prove, so take a breath and communicate with nature and the people in it.n
Denny Dwyer, RC
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