Healing Your Inner Child

We all have heard the term “inner child”. Who is our inner child and why is he/she important? We’re all adults now. Why do we need to bother with our inner children? Our Inner Child contains all of our feelings, memories and experiences from childhood. In order to be whole and integrated, we need to connect and work together with our inner children. Many of our inner children have been wounded and feel alone and empty. Many of them have separated from us because of their pain. When we experience a trauma or something unpleasant, a part of us (the inner child) may split off because it is too painful to be in our bodies. Think of a painful experience that you have had. Can you feel the emotions behind it? Maybe you feel angry or afraid or guilty. It is very common to separate parts of ourselves energetically when we experience something painful. This can happen at any age. If you feel scattered and spacey, then you probably have parts of yourself that have separated. Separating parts of ourselves was a good thing to do when we were in pain. We couldn’t have stayed in our bodies. Separating parts of ourselves probably helped us to survive. It served us then, but it is not serving us now. Now is the time to integrate all these parts, all these inner children, so that you can become whole. This is a very gentle process. When the inner children are ready to come back and you are ready to receive them, I suggest the following process: Sit in a quiet place and begin to breathe deeply. Ask for help from your angels and guides. Close your eyes and start to sense any children around you. You may see them, feel them, or just sense them. There may be one child or more than one. Usually you will see one first. Notice how the child is feeling. Is he/she afraid, lonely, confused, angry? Whatever the child feels is okay. Begin to talk to the child, either out loud or in your mind. Tell the child that you’ve come to take him/her back so you can be together. If the child is frightened, it’s okay. Let him/her become comfortable with you. Tell the child how happy you are to see him/her. Speak from your heart and connect to the child. As you do this, energetically have the intent to open your heart and invite the child to come in. When the child is ready, he/she will enter your aura and blend into your heart. You may feel the energy as it integrates. Thank the child for coming back. Talk to him/her everyday. Be loving and accepting. Honor the parts of yourself that the child has brought to you. As you retrieve these parts of yourself, you will experience joy of being reunited with your inner children, and their joy at being home at last.