Help for Singles: End the Frustration of Not Meeting the Ideal Mate

Hale Dwoskin, Featured Teacher in "The Secret" and author of the New York Times best seller "The Sedona Method," reveals how people can finally end the frustration of not meeting their ideal mate.

In their quest for true love, Americans spend hundreds of millions of dollars on online dating services every year, according to the Better Business Bureau. Meanwhile, 43 percent of U.S. adults -- that's 87 million people -- are single, the Pew Internet & American Life Project found.

Still, even with all those fish in the sea, meeting the ideal mate is not always easy.

Searching for true love can, indeed, feel like searching for a needle in a haystack for many people. And emotions may be wearing thin, particularly for those who feel they have been burned before. Among the challenges of dating that The Pew Project found:
- 47% of singles said there were very few single people in their town they'd be interested in datingn- 55% of singles looking for love said it was difficult to meet peoplen- 10% said they didn't know much about the local singles scene

In time, it's easy for people to internalize their search for the ideal mate and project reasons why it hasn't worked inward onto themselves. They may even begin to feel something is wrong with them, simply because they have not found the right connection.

And though it may seem that the best way to meet Mr. or Ms. Right is to keep plugging away at the search, this is actually the LAST thing people should be doing.

"If you are searching for that perfect someone stop!" says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates.

"The best way to find or attract your perfect partner is to first be your own perfect partner. Most of us are looking to complete ourselves in another person and this never works," he continues. "If you allow yourself to feel your own inner completeness -- that you are enough -- then you bring that feeling into your relationships."

In fact, the more people feel complete with themselves and their own life, the more they will attract the people they are looking for. It may sound hard to believe, but this transition will be effortless because they will have changed the flow of energy in their life.

Right now, for instance, someone may be feeling burdened by their search for love, downhearted by its scarcity in their life, or anxious that they won't find "the one." These very natural feelings are putting out negativity all around them, though, and attracting more of it. This is where The Sedona Method -- a simple tool to release your negative emotions -- is invaluable.

As people release their fears, longing and anxiety, and even as they release the need to find a partner, suddenly the energy around them will become positive. And in that positive energy is the key to attracting an ideal mate.

"If you are really wanting to have a relationship, others can smell that and they tend to shy away," Dwoskin says. "As you allow yourself to feel complete within yourself by letting go, you will find that you are much more open and available for Mr. or Mrs. Right."

"Also remember that if you are like most people you are only looking for one person -- not many -- so if you find yourself meeting some people who are not right at first that is OK," he says. "Your perfect partner is just a release away."

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