Worries lead to tension and “when it comes to tension, there is mental stress in every way. ‘What will happen if I don’t find a job? Along with that, my wife is sick, what will happen to her? My son is not attending school properly, what about that?’ All of this mental stress is referred to as tension. When tension arises, the mind becomes unhealthy.” says Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan (Dadashri).
Pujya Dadashri wants to make each and every human being fearless. Therefore, he asks all of us, “Why are you quivering with fear in this world? What is the use of such a human state? The human state should be fearless. It should be such that nothing in the world can disturb one.”
Agreed! But how do we get there?rnThis is where Pujya Dadashri suggests some most practical steps that will make you stop worrying about everything, even the uncertainty of future, and automatically help you build a positive mindset.
In any unfavorable situation, say, “Dada, I have handed it over to you!” rnSaying so, a solution will come about for everything! Dada is actually entirely blissful, so after taking His shelter, there will be protection from all sides. When one goes and takes shelter of the One who has reached the complete state, who is full of infinite bliss, who has no ulterior motive of any kind, who has no desire that remains, then one will certainly attain the complete state!
The point simply needs to be understood, ‘When it’s our own karmic account, why worry?’rnLord says, there is double punishment for the one who worries, whereas only a single punishment for the one who does not worry. Eg. Suppose someone’s one and only 18-year-old son dies. Now, how much ever worrying is done over him, how much ever anguish and anxiety one maintains regarding the uncertainty of one’s future, it is all double punishment. If all of this is not done, then there is only one punishment - the son has died, the punishment extends only to that extent. Worry, grief, anxiety, stress, tension is all extra punishment.
Pujya Dadashri emphatically says, “We never undergo these two punishments. That is why we have told people that when they get robbed of five thousand, say that it is vyavasthit (it’s a Gujarati word, meaning ‘in order’) and move on, and calmly make your way home. This first punishment is certainly your own karmic account. So, there is no reason to become distressed.... That is why for whatever has taken place, we always say whatever has happened is correct!”
Maintain Patience rather than WorryingrnWhen it does not rain for one year, the farmers say, “We are financially ruined.” Then when it rains the following year, their situation improves. So, maintain patience when the financial situation is poor. One should minimize his expenses and with a positive mindset, put in more hard work and efforts in any way he can.
Pujya Dadashri advises, “If you maintain patience, then everything turns out to be straightforward on its own! However, patience does not remain; one hustles and bustles and everything becomes spoiled. By thinking, ‘I will do this and I will do that,’ one creates entanglements. Consequently, he experiences clashes and exhaustion. Everything comes through peace, through patience. It will come calling after you while you are at home. It is not that you have to go looking for it in the market. Otherwise, one may work himself to death, one may work his intellect to death, yet he won’t earn even four anna.
So, have patience, have composure. People are running around multiplying and dividing that which is actually a natural influx and outflux. They are ruining their future life and it makes no difference in their bank balance because it is all natural. I alleviate your fears by disclosing to you everything as it is. Profit and loss is not in anyone’s hands, it is in the hands of Nature. Any increase of money in the bank is in the hands of nature, and any decrease of money in the bank is also in the hands of nature. So all this is happening naturally. Why are you worrying about it then? Don’t worry! And stop ‘multiplying and dividing’!”
When circumstances are unfavorable, people go out to earn; instead do bhakti at that time.rnWhen the circumstances are not favorable, people go out to make an earning. They should actually do devotional worship (bhakti) at that time. One should do that which is for one’s own Self i.e. satsang and all that, all day long.
Pujya Dadashri teaches us how to pull along in bad times, “During bad times, you should engage in good things. Do you get two meals a day or not? There is only the need to give body enough food as per its requirement; it does not need anything else. Otherwise, just recite the Trimantra (that destroys all obstacles in life) for an hour each day! If you recite it, then your financial situation will improve. You should find a solution for it.
If one calls upon Dada Bhagwan’s name for an hour, then heaps of money will emerge. But people don’t do this, do they! Having said this, thousands of people have obtained money. Difficulty has left for thousands of people! If one calls upon Dada Bhagwan’s name, and money does not come, then that is not Dada!
When one faces difficulties, he does not know how to settle it, so he binds nothing but bad karma. To know how to pass that time and not bind any bad karma is known as religion. It is a natural principle of this world that there will always be a sunrise and a sunset.”
Live in PresentrnWith great compassion, Pujya Dadashri explains, “Tension can actually destroy you... So, there is a need to simply understand. The past is gone and you should remain in the present. Can you remain in the present or not? We certainly remain in the present. That is why people say, “Dada, you are free from tension!” I say, “What tension, mortal one!” If you remain in the present, would there be any tension? Tension arises for those who get lost in the past. Those who go crazy about the future have [tension], what tension would we have?”
The ultimate Solution lies in the ultimate Positive i.e. in the Pure Soul, which is our real SelfrnWorries are generated from ignorance of the Self. Therefore, Pujya Dadashri urges to all of us that we attain Self-Realization, the Akram way, as it is easy and very simple. He explains, “The One who is in the state of the pure Soul, the One who constantly remains in the Self, remains in samadhi in every situation. This is because He Sees and Knows every situation.... What is this like? If you have entered into someone else’s home, then would you not feel uneasy and nervous? You certainly would. You would constantly feel, ‘Someone will throw me out any moment now, someone will reprimand me.’ However, if you are sitting in your own home, then do you have any worries? There would be peace, and it is like that in Your own home.”
John (you may insert your own name here) is not our real home. Our ‘I’, the Self, the pure Soul, is indeed the Knower and Observer of Johni. But due to wrong belief, we have become one with John. Therefore, there is constant worry and constant suffering, a state of uneasiness and agitation remains; like a fish that is taken out of water, there is constant writhing in agony.
Tension and Worries Leave with the Understanding of this Gnan – the Real knowledgernSo, our only ardent prayer is, ‘May all attain this Dada’s Gnan and be free from all sufferings!’
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