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How do I get over an online friend that I am so attached to?

Topic: Spiritual GuidesPublished January 19, 2022

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The world of digitalism and social media networking has changed our real life interactions. Their attractive looks and features draw us towards their addiction. With a sharp rise of various social media networking platforms and the Internet, having virtual friends is the new norm. Technology has progressed to the point that being in touch with someone staying miles away is just a swipe away! We are driven by such friendships as they make us feel happy and satisfied. As maintaining such a friendship is effortless, attachment and closeness with an online friend is very common. However, it is equally difficult to break away from this emotional attachment, if one has to. Attachment is a weakness that makes us vulnerable as we become emotionally reliant on that person. Let’s check out some effective ways of overcoming the over-attachment, as shown by the Enlightened One, Pujya Deapakbhai Desai.rnWays of overcoming attachment for an online friend –rnThinking of the consequences- Anything that comes in our life doesn’t stay forever with us. As our friends, in the past, came and then left, even this friend won’t remain permanently with us. Accepting this fact is the key to toning down our emotions. Also, we may ask ourselves, what did I achieve after so much attachment? Was it freedom or bondage? We’ll get our answers. Hatred: a natural reaction of attachment – When we are overly attached to someone, we automatically tend to hold a lot of expectations from that person. Some expectations may get fulfilled and some may not. When the expectations are not fulfilled, a sense of reaction springs up in the form of hatred. The higher the attachment, the higher is the level of hatred. This inner hatred leads to an inner suffering and loss. We may feel, “I've given my heart and soul into that person, but what I get is just remorse.” Having space – How about feeling suffocated in a relationship when we overly intensify our attention towards that person? He will obviously need some space. A bitter loss of friendship is the only end to this, with us feeling guilty for it. Giving that friend the space is also a way to tame our attachment. Lastly, here’s a permanent solution to come out of this attachment. True Love is the perfect antidote to emotional attachment. Let’s understand it below:-rnThe Ultimate Spiritual Solution to Overcoming Attachment –rnA higher spiritual perspective clears the illusory attachment through Pure Love. Pure Love is when :-rnthere are no expectations from the opposite person whatsoever.It stays the same whether the other person praises us or blames us.There is no fault finding in the other person. Such true love is possible when the Enlightened One blesses us with the vision of the true Self through Self realization! And when we are attached to such an Enlightened One, it is a divine attachment with the taste of bliss and complete freedom from the worldly attachment. So, first of all, look forward to meeting the Enlightened One! Your attachment to Him will automatically get all your worldly attachments to fade and wither away in no time! To know more: https://www.dadabhagwan.org/path-to-happiness/relationship/true-love-in-relationship/

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