How do you Handle Mutual Friends after a Break Up?

Dealing with a breakup is very complicated but the presence of mutual friends’ makes it even more complicated. In addition to dealing with heartbreak emotions, you will also have to deal with a problem that will keep you connected with your ex, the one that you cannot stand a minute with. The big question is how do you deal with mutual friends?
Sometimes the friends were yours before you became involved with your ex. Other times, you may have met the friends through your ex. When your social life with your ex revolved around certain mutual friends, you can feel awkward around those same people once you’ve broken up with your ex.
The simplest thing to do is to forget your ex and even the mutual friends but it is not that easy. The mutual friends are part of your life and they have nothing to do with what happened between you and your ex and thus, there is no reason why you should try to forget them. So how do you deal with mutual friends?
Do not talk about your ex: In most occasions, your friends and ex are going through the same problem. They are most likely questioning how do they handle the breakup and may be feeling anxious with the changes because there are no set guidelines on how to deal with the situation. You should not put your friends in awkward position because they probably want to be loyal to both of you. To avoid complicating their life, you should avoid talking about your ex with them. If you need to vent out, you should choose close friends and family.
Remain in Touch: At first, you might be hesitant because you might feel they are your ex’s friends but in most occasions, they are equally your friends and maybe you are important to them just like your ex is important to them. You should keep in touch with them but focus on your relationship with them but not the relationship with your ex.
Be Calm and Classy: Even if some of your mutual friends are talking about your ex be it trashing or talking good about your ex, you should keep out of it. They might be trying to cheer you up or even indicating they are on your side but if you join the conversation, you might create drama with your friends.
Be Tactful and Nice: To avoid complicating issues further, you should be tactful with your dealings. You should avoid criticizing or talking about a new relationship. Furthermore, even if you decide to date again, you should treat the new partner with civility. It does not matter whether you are dating too soon after a relationship ending or not, it is not for you to judge. If your ex does not like the fact that you have moved on with your life, you should understand that it is not your problem or even your new partner. However, you should try and keep the relationship civil.