How to Develop a Loving Relationship

Dear friend, happy Valentine’s Day! The greatest gift you can give today is that of self-love and this is not being selfish or egotistical. It is being centered in self. It is only when you can love yourself that you can really love another. As a reminder I invite you to listen to Whitney Houston’s song Greatest Love of All http://youtu.be/IYzlVDlE72w

Relationships are at the heart of evolution, they test character, strength, endurance, spirit, wisdom and understanding. They comprise the essence of all learning.

A correct relationship with yourself is crucial, for from it flow all possible right relationships with others. It is now more important than ever to be able to love and accept ourselves. Only if you are totally accepting of yourself will you be able to accept the other person who holds up the mirror for you. And if you love yourself, you will be able to love them and be with them.

Acceptance means to be able to be with that person in love and grace, without needing to change them or make them anything other than what they are in the moment. So many relationships are based on people falling in love with potential. This is followed by frustration as the potential may never be realized.

We are living in an amazing time. Sometimes it may feel as if there is water rising around us: but no human lifeguards out there are capable of saving us. To avoid drowning, we have the individual responsibility to be our own lifeguard, by letting go of outer old ways and embracing new opportunities for growth.

The world is changing so quickly these days, our relationship forms need to be able to change quickly also. Trouble and emotional pain may come when we fail to accept progressive changes in the forms our relationships take.

We therefore, must look at re-creating our relationships and marriages to support our personal fulfillment. No longer motivated by basic drives, but by higher needs, we expect more from ourselves and from life. As a result, we look to our relationships for emotional support to help us be all we can be.

When we understand that the person we have chosen to relate to is part of us, and what we see in ourselves, then we can be in compassion and love with ourselves and then with them. From this place of communion and understanding we can learn to relate with total acceptance of ourselves and of others. (Excerpted from my ebook 12 Secrets to Having a Romantic Relationship). Now click http://youtu.be/IYzlVDlE72w

Until next time, make this a week one in which you are living your life to the fullest.
With appreciation and gratituder
Nigel St.Hill