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How to Get a Girlfriend

Topic: DatingPublished June 7, 2012

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Most guys have no idea where to start when it comes to getting a girlfriend. That explains why so many good-looking, funny and nice men feel unlucky at love. There are no exact guidelines that can tell you how to get a girlfriend, but that doesn’t mean you are doomed to stay single for the rest of your life. With a few simple tips and some confidence, you can be on your way to getting your dream girl in no time. 1. Work on your self-esteem. In the dating world, confidence can make or break your chances. Women like men who look and sound self-assured. Confidence can even make you look more attractive since women can sense it. Keep in mind that there is a fine line between cocky and confident. Intentionally acting aloof and playing hard to get can work initially but will annoy and confuse her in the long term. 2. Get rid of your checklist. While it’s hard not to picture your future girlfriend in a specific way, not compromising on what you are looking for can keep you from finding true love. Happy relationships are based on spontaneous physical and emotional attraction, so let it happen naturally. 3. Be yourself. Trying to act like someone that you are not because you think that’s what women want will definitely backfire. Women can sense when men try too hard, and it can be a big turn off. Just be yourself, and it will automatically put women at ease when you talk to them. 4. Network wherever you go. Too many men spend too much time obsessing over how to get a girlfriend and not enough time meeting women. Girls are everywhere you go, so take advantage of it. Talk to the cute barista at the neighborhood coffee shop or the girl who works out next to you at the gym. Stop missing perfect opportunities to ask women out. 5. Ask women out the right way. Women like to be approached casually. When asking for dates, be confident but not pushy. If she says no, don’t try to convince her to give you a chance. Not taking no for an answer really intimidates women and makes men look too aggressive. When asking for a first date, be easygoing and nonchalant. Instead of asking her on a serious date right away, casually mention that you’d love to get to know each other over some food or a cup of coffee. 6. Ace the first date. One of the most important aspects of learning how to get a girlfriend is mastering the early dating stage. Getting a date is only half the battle when it comes to getting a girlfriend. The next stage is sweeping her off her feet, which can be a little tricky if you don’t plan it right. The first date can ruin your chances if it doesn’t go perfectly, but don’t show her that you are nervous. Don’t worry so much about conversation. Rehearsing what you are going to say and ask her ahead of time can make you look stiff and unnatural. Just be yourself, and don’t act desperate for attention. 7. Know when to ask her to be your girlfriend. The last step to officially getting a girlfriend is asking the woman you’ve been dating to be in an exclusive relationship. Timing is everything. Asking too early can scare her off and waiting too long can frustrate her. If she is ready for a long-term relationship, she’ll probably let you know in some way. When dating men they really like, women will usually casually mention that they are interested in a long-term relationship. Going on a few amazing dates and sharing a special connection is a sure sign that she’ll say yes.

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