How to Get Your Wife Back When Nothing Else is Working

Did you know that divorce rates are the highest that they have ever been in America? Don't feel like you're alone – you're far from the only abandoned husband who wants to learn how to get your wife back. The percentage of married couples that get divorced has been steadily increasing for the past 30 years…We're only just now starting to see a plateau, but do you know what the current percentage of divorced couples is? Current estimates state that between over 50% of marriages will end in divorce… Think about that for a little bit, let that sink in. Even if you account for people who've had multiple failed marriaged, clearly we as a society are doing something wrong when it comes to marriage; divorce rates should not be that high. "So, How Do I Get My Wife Back?" With more broken marriages than ever ending in divorce, there are also more marriage counselors and divorce attorneys… Some people are certainly doing very well for themselves off of this tragic trend in marriage. Despite the rise of these professions, it seems that when it comes down to brass tacks very few people actually know Jack Diddley about saving a relationship, or rebuilding lost love. In fact, I would wager to say that most people are wasting time pursuing 'relationship building' strategies that are not only pointless, but actively counter productive. How to Get Your Wife Back By Doing the Opposite of Everyone Around You It sounds almost too sad to be true, but it's really come to the point where a safe rule of thumb to stop a divorce is to do the exact opposite of what everyone else is doing. Everyone Says 'Communication' is the Key to Re-Igniting Your Marriage As I believe I have already hinted at, this extremely common recommendation is actually based off of what would seem like solid logic. This recommendation came about because of the assumption that a good marriage has good communication. This is a reasonable assumption, certainly, since most of the healthy and thriving marriages that I know of DO have very open communication between spouses. However, what works well for a couple with a rocksolid foundation of love, trust and happiness doesn't work equally well for you to repair a broken relationship with a shattered foundation of apathy, desperation and hopelessness. You just can't go into conversations with the same expectations as you would normally...Communication works differently when your wife has hardened her heart, and most people don't realize that. I mean think about it, it's sort of like saying you should talk to a stranger the same way you would talk to your best friend, or that you should talk to your boss the same way you talk to your peers at work...You don't share the same jokes, experiences, misgivings or private thoughts with your boss that you do your friends at work. Why? Because it's apples and oranges; each of those relationships require a different type of communication. Maybe that wasn't the best example in the world, but I hope you understand what I'm saying. What you should take away is that good communication isn't going to solve your marriage, not at this point. You can't simply talk a woman into changing her mind about something so based in emotion. You have to win her heart, and communication is NOT the key to doing that. Everyone Says that Showing You Care is the Key to Getting Her Back If you have ever been to marriage counseling then I am willing to bet that you have heard this one or something similar a couple times before. This is a favorite of your average marriage counselor because it's easy, sounds good, and sounds logical. If your wife feels loved, it's only natural that she'll love you back, right? But as we've already learned, logic does not fix marriages, and this is one more example of a strategy that sounds good but won't actually work. * Bringing your wife gifts won't fix your marriagern * Telling your wife that you love her won't fix your marriagern * Going on regular date nights won't fix your marriagern * Making "intimacy time" for each other won't fix your marriagern * Leaving her cute little notes won't fix your marriagern * Acts of service won't save your marriage Why won't any of these things work? Why will they actively push your wife further away from you? Because right now – to be frank – she views you as weak, smothering and boring, and until she FEELS differently about you (notice the keyword, 'feels') she's not going to be receptive to any romantic gestures… Instead she will feel pressured, pushed and manipulated. She will be able to see right through what you're trying to do, and because she knows your end goal, her mind will throw up that defensive emotional wall that keeps her from WANTing you back. Everyone Says Lavishing Her is the Key to Saving Your Marriage This one is probably more commonly heard from your buddies then from your marriage counselor… Many men are really and truly convinced that if they shower their wife with love and affection AND gifts that she will change her mind and decide to stay with you. However, for similar reasons that we've already listed - This will not work! Even if lavishing your wife somehow did make a difference in your relationship, is that really how you want to fix your marriage...By essentially bribing your wife to stay with you? Do you really want to stay married to a woman who only loves you because you shower her with attention and give her everything she wants, and not because she actually loves you or wants to be with you? Sounds too much like the psychological mind games that many domineering women use to subdue their husband's if you ask me...In the end all you get is a relationship based on dishonesty. Now I'm not telling you that you shouldn't do nice things for your wife, I'm just saying that now isn't the time or the place to make this your main goal. Your marriage will require a deeper change than that if you ever want to get your wife back after divorce or separation. Throughout this article I'm sure you've heard all these tips at some point or another - Communicate with your wife, Soften her heart by showing you care, Lavish her with gifts and services - But I want you to realize that these WILL NOT SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE! Many other abandoned husbands have fallen for these same traps spread around by the marriage counseling industry...Luckily for you, you have me to tell you that these tips won't do you any good.