How to handle pain in unrequited love?

Catching feelings for someone is easy but seeing if they feel the same way towards you is nerve wracking. Unrequited love is a special kind of love but no matter how painful it is, you can still overcome it by using these few methods; 1. Allow yourself to grieve. Rejection hurts. Your heart is broken and you feel heavy and you just want to lie down. This is because emotional pain activates the same part of your brain as the physical pain. Be kind to yourself and let yourself heal. Don’t pretend that everything is okay. Acknowledge that you are not emotionally well and you won’t be for a while. You have to accept the pain before you get better. 2. Realize you’re not alone. Rejection makes us vulnerable and we take it personally because our heart is involved. One trap we fall into is believing that we are not good enough because just one person does not return our feelings. We might think we are not attractive, smart or lovable enough. Unrequited love happens frequently, even to people we think we would never have a hard time with romance. Just understand that perhaps it was bad timing or the two of you are not good for each other. Focus on manifesting self-love instead of pulling yourself down, and you will definitely recover from your heartbreak. 3. Ask if there is a pattern in your rejections. For some people falling in love with someone who rejects them is a pattern they repeat based on similar childhood experiences. They may have developed insecure attachment if they had caretakers who were not always available when they needed support. Try to access your history of rejections and see if the people you are choosing are repeating the same type of behavior in your childhood. If so, this will only cause you to relive the time you felt abandoned and betrayed and you close yourself off even further. Know that it will be hard to trust people. 4. Realize that it is also hard for the person who rejected you. People who reject others often suffer from guilt and anxiety afterward. It is not easy dealing with heartbreaks but heartbreakers usually feel awful after hurting someone. 5. Distance yourself from the person who rejected you. Even if both of you agree to remain friends after your confession, it’s a good idea to create some distance between the two of you to give yourself some time for healing. If they truly care about you, they’ll understand. Don’t worry about coming off cold. Creating space can help you put things into a healthier perspective. Backing off for a while will help you ease the pain you are feeling. 6. Treat your feelings as if they are someone else’s When you are flooded by negative thoughts, it is hard to be self-absorbed, instead monitor your feelings like they are other people. This allows you to step out of your usual perspective and access the situation in a more objective way. This can also help you realize that your unrequited feelings are the only feelings you have. Just being able to step out of the frame and see that only makes up a part of who you are can be a relief. 7. Focus on non-romantic media Media is full of romance but it is helpful to step away from books, movies, blogs, and radio stations in that genre for a while. Instead, you can turn to media that promotes confidence and self-love. When you focus on improving your well-being, you will gain a sense of empowerment and recovery from your broken heart. 8. Don’t give up on love Ultimately the future is undetermined. Life is unpredictable and has a way of introducing us to new people when we least expect it. If you are still caught up on someone who is not worth your time, you are closing yourself off to many other possibilities of love. While it may not feel like it right now, heartbreak will eventually pass.