How to Have Presence

Have you ever been in an atmosphere where someone enters the room and suddenly everyone in the room takes notice of them? What does that person have? You spent the entire evening rehearsing your lines, making sure that your hair was perfect, that your shoes were the most stylish they could be. You practiced your smile in the mirror, and your hellos and pleasant conversation, and still, you are passed up and all eyes go to this individual. What that person has, is presence, or charisma. It is something that each of us has, but not all of us know how to bring our presence out. There’s not one of us that wants to go unnoticed, and when we have presence, we tend to get what we want. The secret is how to develop presence so that you do go places and you do get what you want. How to Have Presence The first thing to realize is presence is about how you carry yourself. If you have ever taken an acting class, you are taught techniques that help you to eliminate stresses and to develop your presence. Meditation is one great means. Relaxation techniques which help to eliminate stresses are another. The first thing to do is to understand that you need to relax in, breath deep, close your eyes in a place where there are no distractions and focus on your breathing. Begin to focus on your facial muscles and what they are doing. Start with your brow and move slowly down. Are your eyebrows relaxed, your lips curled, and so on? Concentrates on any tensions you may have and visualize yourself relieving them with oxygen from your breath to the area that may be tense. Continue this throughout your entire body and relax yourself fully. When you are done, look at yourself in the mirror, and notice the difference. This is the beginning of teaching yourself how to relax and build your presence. You will find that by practicing this technique, you will be more relaxed and comfortable around others, and it will show. With presence, style is everything and you want to be stylish. Dress for compliments and a sharp image. Have a style that is noticed and have your grooming just as stylish. If you are a fair skinned person, consider a sun kissed tan. While over exposure to the sun is harmful, there are many products on the market that provide a sunless tan. Professional salons also offer this service, so definitely consider enhancing your appearance through a sun tan. It is essential that you are aware of yourself. You want your posture to be its best, notice how you walk, sit and stand. You should appear confident and comfortable with your surroundings. Your smile should be genuine and sincere, and approachable. Your smile is a very powerful tool, and definitely one that can gain the admiration of those around you. Be diplomatic and definitely be someone that feels for others. When you speak, know what you are saying, and know when not to speak. It is important that people feel comfortable around you and in order for this to happen; they must feel as though they are your equal. Eye contact is also important. You don’t want to appear disinterested nor do you want to glare. Have a happy medium that lets others know that they are all important and when you speak with someone, then practice direct eye contact. Often times, it is easiest to focus on the left eye. You definitely don’t want your eyes jumping from one eye to another. First impressions are everything and whether a man or a woman, you want to be at your best both physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Presence is about presenting yourself and when you learn how to have presence, you have opened an entire new world to yourself. Presence is how others perceive you when you come into contact with them. When you learn how to have presence, you are learning your natural charisma. Presence is the first step in being charismatic, and it is something that each individual possesses, just not all individuals have learned how to bring out their charismatic nature. Individuals need to realize that although charisma may not come naturally, they do have it. Each of us is born with charisma and presence is the start of bringing out your charismatic personality. There are so many limits in life, and when you develop your charisma, those limits begin to vanish, as having charisma takes you places and opens doors that would not normally be opened. Practice your presence. Each day take a few minutes to sit and relax and focus on the tensions of your body and begin to eliminate them with breathing and focus. Put the healing oxygen into the area and watch the stresses vanish. Begin to pay attention to your body language, work on self-improvements, and definitely take the time to update your wardrobe. When you have presence, you have class and style and you get the attention and admiration of others. Know how to act around others, practice in the mirror, and pay attention to what the different parts of your body such as your hands and eyes do when you speak. Are you relaxed, or do you appear to be an uncomfortable stuffed shirt? Learn the art and practice the art of self-improvement which starts with learning how to relax to fit into society and channel positive energy to others. Someone that enters a room and is filled with tenseness does not have the type of presence that attracts others. Positive presence is being the individual that others take notice of and it is something that each of us desires, especially those that are single or are in the corporate world. Learning how to have presence is just the start! Quickly, you will be on your way to being the charismatic individual that you once admired and followed and now others are drawn to you!