Here's a question I received from a lot of guys: "How can you tell whether a girl likes you or not?"
I've hung out with many of the top"seducers" in the world, and all of them have given me different responses to this burning question.
Since these guys were all absolutely amazing with women, I made sure to write down their answers.
My good friend Derek Rake, the mastermind behind the "Deadly Seduction" system, gave an answer to that question that I will never forget.
He simply said, "Kiss her. . If she kisses back, she likes you."
You can get the fail-proof first kiss technique, along with Derek's other Deadly Seduction techniques, by clicking here:
Deadly Seduction - Attract & "Close" Girls FAST
Of course, you know this can't happen until you try it. Now the thing is, it's not a bad advice at all. I just failed to recognize the first step before the kicker.
You see, I used to observe Derek in action. There is a trick he does BEFORE he goes for the kiss that makes the girl actually want to kiss HIM first.
He preps her up for the kiss so that he doesn't have to work as hard to get it. It's this guy's prep work that made the difference.
In the world of seduction, this is known as "conditioning" a girl and it's one of the most powerful psychological tactics you can utilize to make a girl like you.
Before you worry about
what to talk about with a girl, let me tell you the first thing you need to do...
First, you must create a "frame" for her to enter. This sets the stage for you to build attraction. To do that, you have to fix your own frame. Let me discuss this in detail.
The awesome thing about "conditioning" a girl is that is ensures that she will go along with YOUR flow. When you do something to spark a girl's attraction, you don't have to ask if she likes you or not. Make her go with your flow, and not the other way around.
The first step in strengthening your frame is assuming that she likes you. That's your frame. You believe, and you behave as if, this girl is totally into you. When you speak and behave like a dude who KNOWS she likes you, she's going to enter that same frame (or "mode") subconsciously! Like I said, this is powerful stuff. Some people might say it's sneaky, but all I know is that it WORKS.
This is because your whole body language changes when you shift your mindset from doubting her attraction for you to knowing for sure that she's into you.
Think about it. When a girl chases YOU, you're gonig to act differently. You are naturally going to be more relaxed (assuming that you find her attractive, too) and you're going to NOTICE the things she does to impress you and try to attract you.
If this is your mindset when you
talk to a woman, you will notice how she's moving closer, slapping your hand playfully and laughing a little more than usual.
You won't notice these things if you don't assume attraction on her part, because you would be too caught up wondering if she likes you or not.
When I
talk to girls, I'll often playfully accuse them of hitting on me. I'll say "you're totally hitting on me. You're so bad." And I'll say it in a totally confident tone of voice. This makes them giggle, blush, slap my arm, etc...they love it.
The guys who can do this come off as cocky to someone else, but to the girls they talk to, they're pretty funny.
This is what we call a "strong frame", or one that puts a girl in the exact position you want her to be, and that is "she likes you and and you're noticing."
On the other hand, if you're not aware of what's going on, women will attempt to place you inider of THEIR frames -- and when this happens, they lose respect for you and will not feel sexually attracted.
An example of this would be a girl saying to you, "Oh, so you like me? Prove you like me, buy me a drink."
That's just one example of the "mind tricks" that girls play on us. This is especially true with hot chicks at bars and clubs, who know they have lots of options. She's trying to make you feel that you aren't good enough to date if you don't get her something first.
Here's a pitfall that you MUST avoid...
When you go along with the wishes of a girl you just met, you're stepping into her frame and losing control. As long as you stay stuck inside her frame, she stays in the power position.
Learning how to "set the frame," and bring women into it, is one of the most effective seduction tactics I've ever learned. In fact, if you can do it naturally, you can change your seduction game from good enough to absolutely fail-proof.
I was blown away the first time I watched a really good pickup artist use these frame control techniques. There are some guys who simply suck everyone around in their frame, making beta males out of every guy in the room, and attracting the best looking girls.
The other amazing thing about it was that the fact that he was using a "technique" was undetectable. When the frame you create is rock-solid, girls will simply play the roles that you choose for them. You can "frame" a girl as a fun, open-minded party chick by telling her she has those qualities. Then, subconsciously she will want to live up to those qualities...and she'll do things tonight with YOU that she wouldn't normally do with a dude she just met.
To keep your frame strong, you've got to totally believe in it. Also, you need to stay alert and be able to think on your feet, because the girl you're macking on (or another guy) could try to shatter your frame at any time.
The thing is, women will accept what you want if you're persuasive enough, and go inside your reality if they like it there.
Very few guys understand how to use this extraordinarily powerful method, and if you can learn it, you're going to be way ahead of the game.
Imagine having an arsenal of such techniques in your back pocket...you'll leave the "competition" in the dust.
Now here's the great news. My buddy Derek Rake's "underground" techniques are now available for you to check out:
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez