How to stop feeling desperate and become confident, charismatic and attractive

We all know when a needy and desperate person is in our midst. They feel ‘sticky’ and seem to drain our energy. If you suspect that this is you, then you are probably feeling insecure, lonely, in need of validation or love, in need of being cared for, feeling afraid or vulnerable. This is a very compromised state to live in and can severely impair one’s life and potential for happiness. This article is for you if you have the courage to change this negative pattern. So firstly, what causes this needy and desperate state?rnIt is not simply just that the individual has received poor parental care or attention. In large part, it is mainly due to the fact that that the individual carries within them memories of such deficient care. These memories essentially program one to believe negative things about themselves such as I am weak, vulnerable, defective, deficient, incapable of looking after myself, afraid to be alone, need others to be with me to feel safe and secure and so on. Much like when a computer that has old or defective software installed it cannot meet advanced demands requested of it. In the case of the individual the ‘demand’ refers to living life capably and independently.rnWhen someone is programmed this way, they seek out others in desperation to fulfil these needs and to palliate their inner turbulent emotional state.rnSo what can be done to alleviate this self-destructive cycle? Well if it was a computer what would you do? In short, you would update the programming.rnIn the case of a human, the situation is somewhat similar. The ‘program’ here consists of all those negative or unhelpful memories that generate limiting beliefs and negative emotions in the individual. So this ‘program’ must be erased and a new and more effective one ‘installed’. It’s really as simple as that, and it is just as easily done. Is this possible? Yes, but please do not confuse what has just been said with psychotherapy or some form of behavioural conditioning program as this is not what I’m referring to. Rather it is an entirely new process that rapidly and effectively helps one to rid one’s self of the negative program and reconnect to their true and powerfully creative self that is their Life Force Energy. To learn more or to experience this process for yourself, contact me via the link below to request a complimentary 1 hour introductory phone/Skype session.