Knowing how to talk to a girl you like is far from the easiest thing in the world.
Remember back in high school when you had that huge crush on a girl you just couldn’t get out of your mind?
Maybe she was in your math class or had a locker next to yours, but for some reason, something about her incited all these emotions inside that you couldn’t wait to let out.
But when it came time to actually asking her out, the smooth lines you’d been planning for months to say escaped your mind and you could barely muster up enough courage to say hello.
Well, as you probably already know, it doesn’t get any easier when you grow up.
Talking to a girl you actually like requires a tactful yet confident approach. You need to build a sense of intrigue about yourself while subtly letting her know your intentions.
However, you don’t want to be too subtle or else you will end up in the dreaded friend zone.
Here’s how you can finally score that girl you have feelings for while avoiding certain hazardous pitfalls.
Don’t Lay It All Out on the Table
Ever have one of those embarrassing why the hell did I do that, face in your palms moments? Well, those were the exact reactions I had after realizing that I’d utterly blown my chances with my dream girl.
Way back when I was still a novice in the whole PUA community, one of my earliest successes came in the form of a beautiful brunette that I had been pining over for months.
Despite being just a few weeks into the “game”, I was somehow able to score what would be a very successful date with this brown-haired vixen. It may have been an unoriginal dinner and a movie date (which I totally recommend against by the way), but we hit it off, got a bit physical and everything seemed to be going smoothly – until I messed things up.
Rather than keeping my emotions in check and leaving her with an air of mystery about my intentions, the following week, I laid it all on the line.
Having been attracted to her for quite some time, my clingy and overbearing former self decided to jump the gun and tell her how much I liked her, and in painfully embarrassing detail I may add.
Needless to say she was freaked out and I was left with my tail between my legs.
When you meet a girl you actually like, the last thing you want to do is spill your guts to her. Not only is this needy behavior unattractive but it also makes you less of a challenge and, quite frankly, a boring sap.
Even worse, you don’t even know if she likes you at all. Just because you pour out your feelings for her doesn’t mean she will reciprocate because – guess what – life is not a romantic comedy.
Three Ways to Get Her Interested
The only way to get with a girl you really like is to show her a side of your personality that is fun and exciting – not your gushy sensitive side. There are three key elements to this:
1. Be Confident
When you’re out on the town or even just having a conversation with her, don’t be afraid to be loud and confident. Women are attracted to guys who are sure of themselves and stick to their own unwavering beliefs.
Don’t pander to her or say things just because you think she’ll like it. Instead, make your convictions known and even challenge her way of thinking.
It’s okay to walk around with an slight air of cockiness because exuding self-confidence is one of the most attractive traits a man can have. Just don’t go overboard and act like a complete d-bag.
2. Be Passionate
Women love it when a guy shows he’s passionate about certain areas of life.
Whether it’s your job, a hobby or a book you’ve read, genuinely talking about how much passion you have for the subject will come off very charismatic – even if she doesn’t necessarily agree with you.
3. Be Unpredictable
There’s no faster way to turn a girl off than by being boring and predictable. Rather than talking to her about the same old things, spice things up.
Be unpredictable and exciting with your conversations. Say things that will keep her guessing like “my opinion of you is changing every day” or “it would never work out between us”. The seemingly benign remarks will throw her for a loop as she doesn’t quite know if you like her or not.
Playfully teasing her with lines like these will have you come off as this fun and flirty guy who also is a bit mysterious.
How to Talk to a Girl You Like While Creating Sexual Tension
The biggest part that most men fail at when talking to a girl they like is forgetting to create sexual tension.
Most men will play it safe when they talk to a woman, a dangerous ploy that A.) doesn’t escalate the situation sexually and B.) usually ends with the guy trapped in the friend zone.
But you don’t want to be too forward, as that will make you come off as too aggressive and creepy.
Instead, subtly express your sexual interest by misinterpreting what she says, using double-entendres and teasing her in a flirty way.
Some lines you can use are:
“That guy is perfect for you (as you point at some geeky guy).”
“Part of me is really interested in you, and part of me wants to run away as fast as I can. Not sure yet.”
“I’m very different than most guys. You don’t want to get to know me.”
If she starts teasing back, you can turn the tables on her by saying:
“Let’s not get ahead of ourselves here.”
“I’m giving you detention.”
“Don’t make me write your name on the board.”
Whatever you say, it is important that you slowly build the sexual tension which will, in turn, make get her interested.
Not letting her know your feelings up front, constantly being confident and being unafraid to ramp up the sexual tension are all you need to know about
How to Talk to Girls like.