A lot of guys wonder whether pickup lines can actually work on women. Yet when we hear the term "
pickup line," we tend to envision some sleazy dude wearing a gold chain across his hairy chest. He's prowling a bar or nightclub, his beady eyes scanning the room for his next target.
Then he spots his next "conquest" and makes his move...he approaches her and uses some cheesy pick up line that causes her to groan (or throw her drink in his face...)
I'm referring to pick up lines like these...
"You'd better know CPR, baby, because you take my breath away."
"Can I borrow a quarter? [What for?] I want to call my mom and tell her I just met the woman of my dreams."
"Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes."
"Somebody better call God, cuz he's missing an angel -- so what time do you have to be back in heaven?"
"Sorry lady, but you owe me a drink. [Why?] Because when I looked at you, I dropped mine."
"Hello. Cupid called. He says to tell you that he needs my heart back."
"I play the field, and it looks like I just hit a home run with you."
"If I followed you home, would you keep me?"
"If this bar is a meat market, you must be the prime rib."
"I was so mesmerized by your beauty that I ran into that wall over there...I'm going to need your name and number for insurance purposes."
Now, not all pick up lines are THAT cheesy. I'll give you a few examples of pickup lines that I've successfully used to approach women. The key is to follow them up with something more clever (I'll give you some of these "transitions" in a minute).
"Would you touch me so I can tell my friends I've been touched by an angel?"
"Do you know karate? Because your body is really kickin'."
"What does it feel like to be the cutest girl in the room?"
"You must be a hell of a thief, because you stole my heart from across the room."
(Note: Don't use this pick up line on women who are extremely beautiful and KNOW it. This one is effective on a girl who is attractive, but is clearly NOT the best-looking girl in the place.)
Now here's the next type of pick up lines. I call these...
Pick Up Lines That Might Get You Kicked In The Crotch
Use this last category of pick up lines with extreme caution. While they might get a good reaction (particularly if she's a drunken nymphomaniac), you're equally likely to get hit. (Especially if her boyfriend the UFC fighter happens to be standing nearby.) Use them with caution...
"Do you know what has 142 teeth and holds back the Incredible Hulk? [What?] My zipper."
"That outfit would look great...in a crumpled heap next to my bed."
"That's a nice set of legs, what time do they open?"
The Truth About Pick Up Lines
So are pick up lines something to be mocked? Would any REAL pick up artist deign to use them? I have authored a few books on picking up girls, which teach many different resourceful approaches to starting conversations with girls. I personally feel that if you're learning how to approach women, using pick up lines is NOT the way to go.
I teach a style of approaching women that I refer to as "going under the radar". This means you use a clever, unexpected comment or question to capture her interest and engage her in a conversation WITHOUT signaling that you're hoping to get her into bed. Essentially, you're "breaking the ice" in a way that feels natural and casual.
For instance, you might ask for her opinion on an unexpected topic -- one that women are of course going to have strong feelings about.
Opener #1: "Hey, I have to get back to my friends but let me ask you something real quick -- would you freak out if your boyfriend was invited to a bachelor party and you knew there would be strippers at the party? Because my friend Jennifer is sort of freaking out about this right now."
Opener #2: "Hey, help me settle a debate I'm having with my friends. How long do you need to be dating someone before you change your status on Facebook from "single" to "in a relationship?" Because my friend Jennifer has been going out with a guy for a month and SHE thinks it's an exclusive thing, but he hasn't changed his "single" status and she's wondering if she should say something..."
These methods of approaching women are particularly effective because they're based on what I call "relationship grey areas." Men and women tend to have their own ideas about what's allowed in a relationship, and what is unacceptable. Another example: is it "cheating" if a guy hangs out with his ex-girlfriend socially, without telling his current girlfriend?
When you approach a woman, your goal with the opening line is to get a positive response that makes her want to talk to you further. And if you're a confident, playful guy, this one always gets a fun reaction:
"Do I look gay? Because this guy was TOTALLY flirting with me in the men's room a second ago. Be honest, is it my shirt?" (Or, "is it the way my butt looks in these jeans?")
I wouldn't classify those as pick up lines. But I'm not saying you should NEVER use a corny pick up line when you approach women.
I've actually used some of the pick up lines I mentioned above, and they led to a conversation and a successful result (either I got her phone number and saw her again, or slept with her that night).
It was because I poked fun at the fact that I had USED a pick up line! After saying it, I followed up with "I know that TOTALLY sounded like a pick up line...but I want to talk to you for a minute and I couldn't think of what else to say. My name's Dean..."
Then from that point, I used my usual methods -- I asked a few "strategic" questions to get her in a fun mindset, and sharing information about herself...I used techniques like "Cold Reads" and "Hypotheticals"...and at all times, I stayed in control of the interaction and guided it down the correct path.
Sometimes a really corny pick up line can be a FUN way to start things off. The trick is knowing how to follow it up with something clever that makes her want to talk to you.
Or, you can always use this:
"You're so cute that you totally made me forget my pickup line."
You can't put a price tag on a line like that!
Now, before I explain how to FOLLOW UP and get her to start feeling curiosity and attraction, I need to warn you about something...
The tactics you will learn in our FREE guide to approaching women will affect women on a subconscious level and trigger their deepest desires. Please try to use this material responsibly, because it's extremely powerful. These are quite simply the most powerfully effective methods if you want to learn how to approach women, move past cute pick up lines, and seduce women with confidence and skill.