How Desirable Are You?

Are you known as a desirable person? By saying this, I mean do you have attractive people wanting to be close to you, pursuing you or asking you for dates—friendly or romantic? I have a pal who complained that nobody asked her out, ever. I asked why and she had a lot of reasons. She said it was her less than stunning, va-va-voom head turning looks; or it was her age. She also said it was her lack of choice in her small town. Unfortunately, her reasons didn’t bring her any closer to whatever she wants to do in life.

And they did not make her feel good either. So we began to discover and find out what the word desirable truly means. Then, we began to look what was right about her instead of what was wrong; what she can really do instead of what she cannot. Most importantly, we focused on her strength rather than her limitations. My friend considered thoughtfully about the following points: 1.) Create a vision for your life--imagine your ideal life and then create a plan of action to make it all a reality. So how would you like to live and what will that look like over the next year, five years, or a decade from now? Build and develop certain clarity around your vision for your life.

If you do not know exactly how to do that, then you can hire a tutor, coach, mentor or counselor. The idea here is to do something in moving yourself onwards toward your vision. 2.) Always take good care of yourself-- it means to keep your dentist’s and doctor’s appointments, pay close attention to your diet, get sufficient sleep and relaxation, have a regular fitness regimen, stay connected to those people you love most, and do all those activities that feed your spirit. It is difficult to be desirable if you’re missing any of that aspects.3.) Participating and cooperating in your community.

Choose and identify five people you could help become more successful and happier and contribute to them in some of the ways you know how. Being an integral part of a strong and charitable community and helping the quality of life of those people around make you sought-after, compassionate and interesting. You got to where you are now because other individuals also helped you. 4.) Give yourself more than you ever need. If you like to operate from a strong and solid personal foundation, you should have enduring support system, a reserve of energy and financial resources. These qualities make you all the more desirable.

5.) Watch those exterior benchmarks. Give up pushing, striving, commitments and exterior benchmarks as signs or indicators of your success. We don’t have to be more of who we truly are and stop neglecting ourselves. We need the wisdom and the grace to have goals and aspirations and not be attached to the outcome. 6.) Be the best—the very best. Developing an image for excellence and having expertise make you desirable. By living the best life you admire, being somebody you could be proud of is extremely, undeniably attractive.