I Want Perfect!

Every man dreams of finding the perfect woman. Every woman hopes of finding Mr. Right. Nobody wants to end up with the wrong kind, so every other relationship becomes a trial-and-error test. For some it is a process of elimination: collect as many as you want, then pick them off one by one. For others, only the perfect relationship will do and by the time they come to their senses, there’s nobody out there but their ever faithful dog. There is a certain moment in life when a person would feel that living alone doesn’t feel fun and liberating anymore.

It simply feels lonely and wrong. You dream of waking up in the morning with that perfect someone on the other side of the bed. You dream of long, stimulating conversations over a cup of hot coffee—of tight hugs and tender kisses, of the pitter-patter of small feet all over the house. Then you dream of growing old together, with a handful of gray hair, smelling of liniment sitting side by side on your recliner. Aah, pure bliss. Unfortunately, choosing a life partner is a far cry from shopping for shoes. If it doesn’t fit you can always go back and exchange it.

With a husband or wife, you go to court and spend a fortune on lawyers because you can’t just toss the person out of the window and out of your life. So how do you tell if that person is the ONE for you? Every person has a standard of what his partner should be. Some people make the mistake of marrying somebody based purely on the physical aspect. Physical compatibility is important, but there’s more to marriage than having a trophy wife or husband. What are your strengths and weaknesses? What are your ambitions in life? Do you share the same views and opinions? Do you have common values? At the end of the day, it’s not the attractive set of facial features or the perfect physique that matters.

It’s how you handle each other’s differences and turn it into an advantage in your relationship. Taking the big step that is marriage is not easy. It doesn’t start with the extravagant wedding and ends with the romantic honeymoon. Real marriage happens the day after, when you discover your partner’s annoying habits and try your best to accept the person that he really is. Really, there is no such thing as a perfect life partner. Every person has his/her own differences which could always cause conflict. And surely, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. There may be a lot of marriages that don’t work, but there are also a lot of happy, satisfying relationships.

No, it’s not because two perfect people found each other and made a perfect life together. How boring this life would be if we were all the same! A lasting, fulfilling relationship is achieved when two very different people come together and work on their differences to create a marriage that is based on friendship and love. Now that’s perfect!