Learning to Last Longer: Relax. The Journey is its Own Reward.

Premature ejaculation affects not only you but your partner as well. Feelings of anger and resentment can arise from continued unsatisfying sexual encounters. The good news is that this does not have to be a permanent problem. Read on and learn what you (and your partner) can do to improve your sexual relationship The Basics Premature ejaculation is a term used when a man often achieves climax quickly and before his partner can climax as well. It almost sounds like a medical disorder but rest assured, there is probably nothing wrong with you. You can last longer in bed; you just have to work a little harder at it. Some studies link premature ejaculation to psychological factors such as depression, anxiety, or a general lack of confidence. Some men also feel that their penis is overly sensitive, particularly men that are not circumcised. Again this is more of a mindset and if you want to last longer in bed you just need to move your mind into a more positive direction. Talk Your Way Out of It No, I don’t mean that you should continually offer excuses for your premature ejaculation. If you want to last longer in bed, you need to communicate with your partner. This can often be overlooked to detrimental results. Feelings of resentment or anger can build up and destroy your relationship altogether. Don’t feel ashamed to talk to your partner. Involve him or her and it not only shows that you care about both your needs, it can be fun to boot! Showing your partner that you also want them to achieve climax lets them know that you’re not just in it for yourself. Maybe certain positions let you last longer in bed than other. Explore them with your partner and let them know when you think you’re getting too excited. Start slow and experiment until you gain better self-control. Think About It Sometimes a not so pleasant distraction is all you need. I’m not saying that you should think about something disgusting or depressing, just something to keep you from getting overly excited too quickly. Be careful here though. Don’t think about the fact that you suffer from premature ejaculation, that your partner would be better off with someone else, or anything else that could cause more anxiety. Just a simple distraction, like what you need from the supermarket, to keep you from feeling too intensely. You may already be able to last longer in bed after reading this far but keep going, there’s more knowledge to be had. Work it Out Did you know there was an exercise that could help you with premature ejaculation that doesn’t even require a gym membership? This magical exercise is known as a kegel and it involves the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor. You can perform these anywhere, even while waiting on the corner for the bus! The performance is simple. Let’s say you were urinating and you wanted to stop the flow. You squeezed a muscle in your pelvis and the flow stopped. That, in a nutshell, is a kegel. Flexing (and therefore developing) that muscle not only gives you more control over your ejaculation; it can also increase the firmness of your erection as an added bonus. Eventual mastery of this exercise will not only prevent premature ejaculation but also possibly give you the ability to experience multiple climaxes. There is no reason you shouldn’t be doing them right now as you read this. Say goodbye to premature ejaculation and enjoy the satisfaction of being able to last longer in bed and satisfy your partner.