Letting Go After Divorce

At what point do you just let go after divorce? The emotional over whelm can become life consuming with legal issues, child custody battles and financial transitioning. What about the feelings of loss, how and when do you let go of it all?

Divorce, as we all know, affects everyone involved. It’s not just the couple once in love, but children, parents, grandparents, friends, co-workers, teachers and on and on. Anger, frustration, feeling deceived or just plain hurting to the core of your being affects everyone around. What you think, do and say has a ripple effect. Yet when you are in the middle of this chaos how or when can you make the decision to let go of what was and move forward with what can be?

All circumstances are different, there are no two alike just as there are no two fingerprints alike. Each of us are unique and who we have become is the result of our life as we have lived it. No other person has the ability to feel what another feels. We may think we can relate to similar feelings, but we are not exactly the same. To criticize, judge, condemn or ridicule another person only emphasizes a lack of compassion and understanding. Each of us heal from hurt emotional experiences in our own way. So how can we know when it’s time to stop hurting and start living happy again? How can we help the one’s we love who are suffering?

As conscious deliberate creators the choices we make are 100% our responsibility. Taking ownership for what we allow or don’t allow to affect how we live is liberating. Accepting the consequences for our choices may not always be what we want, but the decision was ours to make.

As parents we think we are protecting our children by fighting for custody and looking out for what we believe is in their best interest. Is this true? Are your children in physical danger? Are your decisions being made on behalf of them, or are they the result of your own personal emotional chaos? Only you know the right answer.

Is the time, money, energy of holding onto, fighting for and not letting go of the circumstances after divorce worth what you are feeling? Could your time, money, energy create a happier, healthier and more prosperous life for you and your children? Only you know the right answer.

Stop listening to the mind clutter and chatter of others and start listening to what your heart needs and wants. Decide when to let go and move forward. Life is waiting for your unique value to shine. Your children want to live in joy. The choice is yours.