Love Vis-a-vis

To the preysrnI am sure we’ve all heard of the saying “if you love someone let them go, if they come back they belong to you” I am not going to stand against that but you need to understand that statement as well as whoever came up with it. Most of us go through these rainy days stretching out our hands to the empty wilderness, beating ourselves up that “we were meant to be” or “she can’t just walk away like that from the love we created” or “let me just give him time, he’ll realize how much he loves me and he’ll come back”. Well the world isn’t fair and you are making it even harder for yourself when you convince yourself with such lies. If someone was bold enough to walk out of you, accept it that they didn’t love you and let go. When you are beating yourself up, it is you actually hurting while he or she is enjoying themselves. Stop convincing yourself with lies that he or she will come back. If they loved you enough they wouldn’t risk hurting you by walking out of you. Love is not about putting your partner through test, if you want to test someone, test yourself but not how much your partner can hold onto if you dare walk out of them. To the predatorsrnThey say the biggest risk any human can take is to fall in love, to just offer you their heart. We must learn to understand that the human heart is the only part that always carries scars forever. So please humans aren’t pieces of chess to play around with. You might have been hurt from your previous relationship but stop taking the burden with you to the next innocent person. He or she already took the biggest risk to trust you with their heart. So stop being foolish and clothing yourself with excuses like, “My ex played me so I can’t give my whole heart to him.” If you can’t give your whole heart to him, don’t. You are the persons saying love sucks yet you are the same people making it suck by giving love a bad name. Just because you were hurt by your ex it doesn’t mean the next person is your ex. You are hurt one you take it out on three people, these three people will take it out on three people each making it nine people hurt, within a year the whole earth population becomes a mess. Just because of avenging yourself. We can stop this chain guys. If you love someone then trust them and stop putting them through testes, they already passed the test when the opened the doors to their hearts. To the generalrnLoving is simple, stop comparing the density of love you give to each other. We always say, “I love you for who are.” NOT “I love you for who you are not.” That we should realize it means that we aren’t the same. There are certain things your partner can’t do but you can contentedly do and vice versa, understand and accept them for that instead of saying, “I can’t do this to her because she won’t to do it to me neither.” Love isn’t competitions so stop looking at her or his won’t(s) and appreciate the what(s) they can do. Give them time; patience bears the fruits of persistence. You can’t fight the bad with bad expecting it to bear good. Keep doing that which you are doing and with time they’ll comfortably do it too. Love is all about patience and never giving up and appreciation. Remember it is not about giving what you get but getting what you give.rnSome of us always consider themselves the unlucky type in love because all of the time they are always the victims of break ups, or being played, or ending up with rogue guys…this goes for so long till they lose the touch of love and start saying all men are same. Well sorry that’s a lie, you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself. You can’t be chasing dogs expecting to find your prince charming crawling on four feet among them. Take a moment and analyze what you are always looking for in guys and stop looking for that. Another option, in English there is a saying that goes, “birds of the same feather flock together.” realize what that means? If you want to find your king start carrying yourself as a queen. The attention you attract is the attention you receive, you might have the right mind but in the wrong crowd. Be a lady and believe me you will find Mr. Perfects flocking allover you but be the other and you’ll have all the pirates of Caribbean crowding all over you. Stop being desperate and that Miss. Right will find you, be desperate and all the rogue girls will be yours. It’s a simple as that. How you carry yourself dictates the type of life that will be given to you.