Love and Relationships - a Feng Shui perspective

All of us love to be loved and most of us appreciate the opportunity to share our love with others. People have been using Feng Shui for centuries to encourage stable and loving partnerships in their lives, induce harmonious family relationships and reduce conflict in the workplace. Many people also gain insight and remediation for relationship difficulties like unrequited love, patterns of abuse and dysfunctional relationships between siblings or with parents which can deeply affect us. Sometimes just in knowing why this is happening to us can bring about positive changes in behaviour to improve our lives.

Feng Shui is about manipulating energy in the spaces we use daily to support us in all aspects of life. Those who are sensitive to their environment innately know how best to use their spaces, however, many people especially those experiencing difficulties in life become de-sensitised to their environment and wellbeing and need assistance.

Traditional Feng Shui uses our birth date, manipulation of our environment and unsee
Flying Star energy to manage life. Your Feng Shui practitioner can create a Flying Star energy grid of your home revealing unseen energy that can be supportive of relationships or creating obstacles for you in your relationships. Just like our energy is determined by the date we were born, a building’s energy is determined by the year it was completed built - the energy of our home being influenced by geomagnetic energy from the earth, its tilt and orbit around the sun. The energy grid (Flying Stars) for your home is also dependent on the front facing Compass direction of your home (which is not always the same direction as your front door).

For love and relationships, good bedroom Feng Shui is essential. Our bedroom is a place for rest, intimacy and relaxation. For many of us the bedroom is the only private space in the home. Our bedroom is a space where our bodies recover, repair and rejuvenate so our bedrooms should allow us to feel safe, secure and provide privacy. During sleep our liver can rest, our mind can unwind our muscles can relax and we are reenergised. If our bedroom does not support us in these passive pursuits, our health and relationships suffer. How many of us complain of insomnia, waking up feeling tired instead of refreshed or going home with multiple people – never finding a stable partner?

At this current time your Traditional Feng Shui consultant will aim to ensure the owners of the home are sleeping in a bedroom with flying star energy 8 or 9 as this represents good harmony in relationships and health. For a woman wanting to find a stable and lasting partnership with a man, it is best to sleep in a room with mountain star 8, while a man wanting to find a stable and lasting partnership with a woman would best sleep in a room with mountain star 9. If you are in conflict with your spouse and find anger and frustration a constant in your relationship then you could be sleeping in a room with mountain star 3 and would need to use remedies to diffuse. There are 9 energy classifications in total with different consequences and to know what energy star you are sleeping in and whether it is causing you obstacles or not you need to have a Flying Star energy grid completed for your home. You can learn this from books, take courses or hire a traditional Feng Shui consultant.

Encouraging good Feng Shui in your bedroom can assist:

.: men and women trying to find a stable partnerrn.: couples in conflict or having a challenging time with intimacy and need to reconnectrn.: family members in conflict with each otherrn.: family members experiencing health issuesrn.: couples trying to fall pregnantr
To encourage loving and lasting relationships try these simple tips to make it feel more comfortable and inviting:

.: use soft, neutral and pastel colours for walls, bedding and decorrn.: attach a bedhead and place your bed against a solid wall to symbolise supportive relationshipsrn.: avoid mirrors in the bedroom, especially not reflecting the bed it gives a feeling of intrusion in a room meant for privacyrn.: place the bed adjacent to the door to avert active energy influencing and disturbing your rest and intimacy and encourage tende
ess. Avoid placing the bed head directly in line with the door especially if at the end of a long corridor, this will provide too much yang energy coming at your head and disturbing your sleeprn.: create mood lighting. Particularly if you are sleeping in a good energy sector you would encourage this with fire – lighting and candlesrn.: avoid air conditioners directly above the bed or placing a Television in the bedroom that will make the room active and detract from the peacefulness of the room. Televisions distract couples from connecting and can cause distancern.: if your home has exposed beams, avoid placing beds or seats unde
eath them as it can cause a feeling of restriction and pressure for couples that can compound and bring daily issues into the bedroom potentially starting conflictrn.: allow sunlight through during the day, but have window coverings for night time to induce a good night’s restrn.: ensure furniture and objects in your room have no hidden meanings to both you and your partner. Analyse pieces of furniture particularly if they are antiques passed down from relations that you did not get along with or carry residual energy from previous romantic relationships – like your mattress. Remove them from the room and feel the difference. Also be considerate if you are sharing this space with another e.g. if you have a photograph of your parents in the room but your partner does not get along with them, perhaps replace the photo with one of you and your spouse and place the one of your parents in a different roomrn.: introduce symbols of love reflecting togethe
ess and strength . Traditionally animals like mandarin ducks or koi in pairs are used, however, you may have your own special symbols that mean more to you.

These practical and common sense Feng Shui tips relate to the physical placement of furniture and decor. While these changes will provide relief, if the unseen energy (flying star) in your bedroom is not conducive to harmonious loving relationships, then obstacles will still present. This is where an experienced Traditionalr
Feng Shui practitioner will help your know exactly what energy is present and how to assist in your goals.