Powerful words. Easily misleading conversations

"Can you please pick that up for me? –No, not that. THAT!"nnYep, I am one of those. One that uses pronoun instead of words. It drives my husband crazy. But hey, he does it too! It’s incomprehensible, it’s incoherent, and sometimes it even creates conflict. nnThere are several ways to communicate and one of them is verbal. Unfortunately most of us, time to time will not come across as we intended. Conscientiousness and practice is needed for solid and strong communication. Let see how we can avoid misleading conversations.nnWhen you engage in a conversation, ensure that you are following these concepts:nn

• Ditch the pronouns. Use words that will describe well the meaning of your thoughts without using too many refine words. Use words according to your audience.nn
• Organize your thoughts before blurting them out. It will be easier to understand the first time around. You may be able to avoid the double or triple explanation. And yes, it’s worth the small amount of time it will take. Try it.nn
• Use repetition, analogies, or examples to reinforce your ideas.nn
• Don’t tell the person to pay more attention and don’t ask the person if they understand. Ask what the person understood so far.nnWhen you listennn
• Listen. Provide feedback indicating understanding.nn
• Ask questions if you don’t understand; once they are done talking. nn
• Don’t fill in words by anticipating what the person is going to say.nn
• Suspend your judgment and maintain eye contact.nnAnother point to considernn
• Words are powerful. Choose carefully. nnWords like: nnHATE should become DISLIKEnnPROBLEMS should become SITUATIONSnnALWAYS and NEVER should become OFTEN and SELDOM nnI CAN'T should become I WILLnnYOU (accusatory) should become I (take a stand)nnNICE could become GOOD, KIND, FRIENDLY, WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, FAVORITE, AND FANTASTICnnIt’s not easy, so practice, practice, practice and think.nn========================================================== nn"When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen." –Ernest Hemingway nn"One of the basic causes for all the trouble in the world today is that people talk too much and think too little. They act impulsively without thinking. I always try to think before I talk." –Margaret Chase Smithnn"The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention… A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words." –Rachel Naomi Remen nnTo view more quotes visit our quote directory or visit us at www.motivationalcentral.com Motivational Central