Make Your Marriage Better - 5 Fool Proof Marriage Self Help Tips

Has your marriage become just another thing on your list of obligations? Are you looking for marriage self help? Do you want your marriage to be a fun and more rewarding experience for you both? Successful marriages don't just happen, they take work. But you shouldn't look at it like yet another chore. It should be an enjoyable effort that you both can make to make your life together better. So before you run off to a couple's counselor, try these marriage self help tips.
Just say "No!"
Work, kids, extended family, chores and dozens of other distractions pull your focus and eat at your time together. It's important that you learn to say "no" to things you can eliminate from your "to do" list. While it's important to do charitable or community work, sometimes you just have to politely say, "I wish I could help but I need to focus more on my family."
We're Outta Here
No one is saying that you have to go on an elaborate, expensive vacation but sometimes you just need to make the time to reconnect with each other away from your home and children. So hire a babysitter, get a room down the block or across the state. Remember, babysitters are less expensive than divorces.
Sometimes all you need is a small change of latitude to see a big change in attitude.
Be Kind, Rewindr
Remember when you were first dating and you were always so nice to each other? You didn't criticize, you complimented each other, you were interested in what the other had to say and you listened intently. Often when you've been married to each other for a while, you forget the niceties that helped you to fall in love with each other in the first place. When you first got married, you politely spoke to one another when you wanted something. You didn't bark, "When are you going to do the laundry?" or "When are you going to mow the lawn?" Instead you made polite requests, you hinted at things you wanted or needed or you may have done them yourself. If you want some marriage self help, remember that you love your spouse and that they aren't your servant that you can order around. So be kind and rewind to the way you spoke to each other early in your relationship and wait to see the kind of positive reaction you get.
What a Nice Surprise!
Everyone loves surprises especially if they're good ones. So periodically surprise your spouse. While gifts are always nice, you can do even simpler and free things that will likely get you an even better response.
Leave love notes in unexpected places for your spouse to find. If possible, show up unexpectedly to have lunch together. Surprise them by doing a chore that your spouse dreads or doesn't have time to do. You will earn major points for that. Think of little ways that you can surprise your spouse and you will quickly see how this marriage self-help tip generates some positive and surprising attitude changes in you both.
Show, Don't Tell, That You Love Themr
Too often people will say, "I love you," but their actions don't match the words. While saying, "I love you" is always nice to hear and it's good to sincerely say it often, showing you love someone is even more telling. If your spouse had a stressful week at work, let them sleep in while you find a way to keep the kids quiet. Offer to help with the chores. Give sincere compliments. Brag about your spouse in front of friends. Hold hands. Snuggle on the couch. Wink. Flirt. Whisper something funny or sexy to them.
Work on making a better relationship and it's all the marriage self help you'll ever need.