Mind Freedom Exercise (11): Two Ways Make New Ways

People often waste much time and effort trying to change partners into themselves. Although this usually does not work, if it does, boredom can set in pretty quickly. Most of us wish to be appreciated and respected for who and what we are right now. This exercise builds tolerance for differences by finding how they can be complementary rather disruptive. Repeat this exercise as you identify more differences you wish to honor rather than change. In authors Al and Pala’s relationship, they have enough respect for each other that they avoid any quick dismissal of the other’s point of view, perspective, or opinion. Each of them will stop and consider: “If my partner looks at it that way, is there something I could learn?” In this way they celebrate rather than fight over their differences, while constantly encouraging their own spiritual growth and development without trying to change the other.