More Alive Than Ever

I love a good game of “Truth or Dare.” It’s scary and yet thrilling. Daring my clients to do something they want, but are scared to do is a common practice. Sometimes, all you need is someone to ask you to step up to the plate, and you will. You need a little nudge … somebody to care enough about your desires and inspire action.

Start with a simple question, “What do you really want? If you had a magic wand what would you ask for?”

On a scale of 1-10, I probably live at an eight when it comes to living full out. I don’t always do what I really want. Often I don’t say what I really want to say. Some goals I take action on and others I leave dangling for someday …

Most of what prevents me from living full out is a powerful thought “I don’t know how” or giving all of my attention to what I don’t want. If I can’t figure out how to make a goal happen in a short time, I get frustrated and irritated with that goal. Of course, from that perspective I’ll never find a solution. Then it gets put on a back burner until I get mad enough to do something about it or some fabulous person gives me a little nudge.

Do you live full out? Are you totally authentic? Do you tell people how much you love them? Do you ask for what you want or are you more concerned about being appropriate? Do you ask yourself on a daily basis what you want to create and feel today? Are you implementing strategies and habitually taking action toward a thriving business and life?

My 42-year-old brother died two years ago this week while on his daily bike ride. I wanted to die when the doctor told me my soul mate was dead. Really.

I made a choice a couple of weeks after that to have the best life ever. I stopped waiting. I realized nothing was permanent and there are no limits so I might as well go for 10x the joy, fun, love and success.

If this was the last six months of your life and you were in perfect health what would you do? What if money wasn’t an excuse? What grudges would you let go of? What conversations would you have? What places would you visit? What are you scared to do but you’d go for it anyway?

If I waited until I wasn’t scared or ready to take action, I wouldn’t have experienced the most precious and thrilling things in my life.

Say "yes" to giving, requesting, loving, receiving, signing up, booking the trip, making the purchase, doing the seminar, relaxing on the couch, laying in bed with your partner all day, taking a spa day, getting in a helicopter, trekking on a glacier, getting married, letting go of the relationship, dancing on a table … living a life with no regrets. Period. A life with full-on joy and laughs is yours for the taking.

Say "no" to holding back, playing it safe, letting fear give you cold feet, feeling guilt or shame (the lowest vibrating emotions of them all), making “not enough money, time or resources”, your excuse, giving attention to what “sucks” or what you don’t want, forcing yourself to do things you can’t stand, telling yourself that you are not good enough, criticizing, being lackful, responding to folks when you are highly reactive and anything that doesn’t give you joy.

It’s simple to live full out. All you have to do is do it. Make a choice to live that way and remind yourself constantly that this was your choice. I dare you. I dared myself and life is feeling a lot more alive.

How good can you stand it?!

P.S. I’ve discovered that my brother is more alive than ever. =)