Say Adios to the Fear of Rejection!

Do you ever get an uncomfortable feeling in your stomachnwhen you have to approach someone?

In situations like this does your mind go blank?

This is not unusual. That feeling is often the fear ofnrejection.

When you feel afraid your emotions take over, you feelntense and your ability to think logically vanishes intonthin air.

And that is why you can talk to close friends without ancare in the world but never know what to say when you meetnnew people. i.e. emotions cloud your thinking.

What is the answer to this challenge?

You need to take charge of the fear of rejection:

1. Imagine the worst case scenario.

Run it through in your mind. How will you handle rejectionnif it does happen?

Our fears often take on a life of their own. However whennyou can stop for a moment and plan in advance, whateve
does happen is usually not so bad after all.

Once you accept this you will feel more relaxed and bette
able to deal with what does happen.

2. Decide what rejection means

When we react emotionally to rejection we can usually comenup with some awful reasons why people reject us, such as:nn- People dislike men- I am a failuren- I am not worthy of their approvaln- I am not good with people

These limiting thoughts are only making things worse fornyou. And the strange thing is that only you can choose whatnrejection means for you.

Meaning is a choice so why not choose more empoweringnmeanings? Such as:nn- I need to change my approachn- I can get better by learning a better wayn- He is having a bad day and is too busy to talk

Decide what rejection really means before it happens andnyou will feel a lot better about yourself if it does happen.

Like I always say...

Knowing what to say is not just a matter of what words tonspeak, that is only the tip of the iceberg, ninety per centnof the solution depends on you taking charge of you
emotional and mental states.

When you do this you will be able to talk to anyone younmeet with the same ease you talk to close friends.

One final point...

Are these techniques designed to be used once? No!

These strategies will in time become part of who you arenand how you live. Like any skill the more you use them thenbetter you will get.

Aim to improve slightly each and everyday and you will makenhuge progress in the coming weeks and months. As long asnyou make it a daily habit.

Doing a little now and again and expecting rapid progressnis like exercising once a month and expecting to be slimnand fit.

Aim for steady, gradual improvement and you will grow evennfaster than you expect!