Our Relating to Others Can Be Beneficial To All

How we relate to others can shape how they feel and how we feel. We can determine our orientation and that affects the relational field we create. There is a positive openness that we can offer that is supportive for the other person. It will affect how the other experiences us and how she/he experiences herself/himself. It is a way of aligning ourselves with a receptivity and positive regard that is generative rather than limiting.

We can hold the other lightly, remembering that our observations are only a partial truth, and that there is always more that exists beyond the observation or comprehension. We can remember that the other is a multidimensional person. The other person has multiple commitments, and our area of interaction is only a portion of their life. In other words, we regard the other as a whole person.

We can regard the other as an emerging person. One who is working on ways to become more complete and authentic. We can recognize, just as we do for ourselves, that there are self recognized areas that need improvement. We can offer understanding, acceptance, and even forgiveness in the same measure that we give ourselves. Side note – make sure you are giving these things to yourself.

We can regard the other as self generating. We orient to the other person's independence. We can also have an attitude of service and care.

These ways of relating offer opportunity to the other to feel free and comfortable around us. It's supportive for their growth and ours. We open our hearts and reduce our judging. We actually become more free as we offer it to others. We are less attached to what we think is right for others and let them be truly who they are. At the same time, we grow through increased compassion and understanding.
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