Overcoming Insecurity:stop Being Needy And Start Being Happy

When you look at the mirror, do you like what you’re seeing? How often do you smile in a day, do you even remember to smile? Is it your hobby to gossip and talk about someone else’s flaws and imperfections? Does talking about the misery of other people makes you feel better about yourself? Are you usually hesitant to do things in front of other people? In a relationship, do you require a lot of approval and time from your partner? Do you have silent expectations from you partner and expect those expectations from him? And most importantly- do you like/ love yourself? Answering yes to most of the question mentioned above means you are very insecure, negative, needy, and envious- you are a leech.

You are a heavy emotional burden to your family, your loved and yourself. Sometimes you wonder why your friends make excuses when you ask them to go out with. Your partner would rather sleep the night away than listen to you whine all night about how bad you feel about your appearance.

The truth of the matter is, no person or validation can make you feel good about yourself. Insecurity is a debilitating disease; if you are consumed by it you deprive yourself of true happiness. Insecurity means being overly controlling, unreasonably jealous, needy, sad and lonely. It’s like living in a windowless room; all you see are the four walls.

Never giving yourself the chance to smell the roses and feel the cool afternoon breeze. Being insecure is always seeing the glass half empty. All of us want to break free from the chains of insecurity. Let’s go back to the root of the problem- it usually begins in childhood, you were never hugged or kissed enough by your parents.

You grew up with one parent, your dad or mom left you when you were a kid- you were not given enough attention. You were the ugly child. You can go on and on forever about your childhood but it will not do you any good. All you can do is to say, yes, shit happens but don’t let it get the best of you.

Parents are human being, too. They make mistakes and blaming them for your messed up life is absolutely immature. Break the cycle- don’t make the same mistakes your parents did. Forgive- this is the least you can do. Forgive your past, forgive yourself. This is the first step in overcoming insecurity.

Accept who you are- this is me, I like it and if you can't stand it then I’m sorry, I am not going to apologize for being myself. It’s normal to think what people say about you but the truth of the matter is most people are too busy thinking about themselves than thinking about you.

Come real. Sharing your failures and weaknesses to a few trusted friends can help a lot. Acceptance can really boost your confidence, making you feel that you are not alone and so are your friends. Treat yourself kindly. Saying you’re fat, you’re a cactus face, you’re short, you’re ugly in front of the mirror doesn’t help.

Treat yourself with love and care because if you don’t then nobody else will.