People Respond to Self Confidence

I feel that the law of preservation causes us to gravitate to people who seem to have everything under control. We feel safe when we are under their leadership so we gravitate to be around them. The main factor which causes us to want to be around them is the self confidence that they display. Many times we who want to display confidence to the outside world use arrogance or boastfulness to mask our own insecurities. We mistakenly think that our efforts to impress people will cause them to like or admire us but sadly this is not the way that it works. When you meet people who have false confidence it shows and causes you to have a lower impression of them than what they wish for us to have. People who are really confident don’t have to brag or boast. They don’t act as if they have a chip on their shoulder or anything to prove. They are not overbearing or unfriendly. They are just confident in their talents and abilities. They know full well their capabilities and they know their shortcomings. Real self confidence is quiet. It doesn’t need to brag or boast because it knows the outcome. Let’s look at Muhammad Ali. He was a boaster but do you know that he was such a braggart because he by his own admission was afraid. His tactics worked because they angered his opponents and caused them to not fight him intelligently. Mr. Ali did become confident as he progressed in his career. He learned that his tactics would work for him if he combined them with his talents. He became a master of getting into his opponents head and causing him to lose. He learned to confidently use those tactics, and he learned to be confident in his abilities. Confidence on the inside shows up on the outside. You can develop confidence by practicing confidence until it becomes natural to project it. Control your fears and emotions and go for what you know. Learn how to be confident even when you may not feel that way. What do you mean you ask? You can follow a procedure and trust in the procedure to do what it is supposed to if you perform it correctly. Even if you are not sure of yourself you can find something that you can be sure of. Let that thing serve you and carry you to the next level. Confidence will come with practice. When I look at myself I know my strengths and weaknesses. I know that I am not a good fix it man or auto mechanic. That type of work only frustrates me when I try to do it. I just try to find the best person that I can for these types of problems when they arise and let them go for it. There is no need for me to act or pretend. That’s a gift that I just don’t have so there is no need for me to try to fake it. I won’t try to impress you in those areas because I know that I can’t. I know that I’m good at many things, and very good at a few things. I don’t hesitate to tackle those things that I’m good at. If I need advice I will also not hesitate to ask. Confidence is not a show. Those who feel the need to put on a show are those who are really not confident at all. When I was in the military we were on a field exercise and were required to perform a task that we had never been trained to do. Well the bad thing was that we were to be evaluated on our performance. We never had one opportunity to even discuss how we would perform before our higher headquarters came down with their evaluation forms to fill out a report on us. One of my soldiers came to the front with a field manual in his hands and told me that his old outfit had trained on the task many times so I put him in charge. He stood there with his manual opened to the procedure and gave directions to the rest of the unit. They simply did as they were told and we not only passed the evaluation but got an excellent rating. He informed me months later that he had never performed the operation before in his life. He had simply found the directions in the manual and read them to us. That’s what real confidence will do for you. Truly confident people are not insecure at all. They are CONFIDENT. Riceland Enterprises