Put The Petty Bickering Behind You And Be Happy With Your Girlfriend!

It almost seems as if there's a stage of petty bickering and arguing that all relationships must go through. You'll find yourself having disagreements, sometimes over pointless or stupid things, even when the relationship seems to be going great! You'll find that sometimes tempers flare for no real reason, and arguments start for the most ridiculous reasons!

You see, "winning" doesn't really matter - if you keep getting into arguments, you lost! If you don't do something, you know that the constant arguments are going to tear the relationship apart.

Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #1 -- Will it Matter Tomorrow?

If you fight about every trivial thing, then even the important things will wind up appearing trivial. You should get used to not getting you way all the time, because a woman worth staying with won't put up with it. If you know she's got a problem with punctuality, for example, does it make sense to start bickering with her every time she shows up late? If you start the evening off bickering about her lateness, that's going to be the tone for the entire evening. Sound like fun? If it doesn't, don't let her being a few minutes late ruin her evening - and yours.

Don't misunderstand - if something important crops up, you've got to deal with it. The fact that you're letting the small things slide doesn't mean you should sit back and give her a pass when she makes huge charges to your credit card. When such major issues come up, you have to address them right away. When something like that happens, you've got to sit down with her and address the problem directly. But if she didn't prepare the morning coffee, big deal! Drop it!

Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #2 -- Let Her Know Your Feelings

It's something about men - we've got a bad habit of keeping problems to ourselves. We start building up this anger inside that turns to rage. This is a counterproductive way of dealing with issues. For instance, if you find yourself picking up the tab all the time and it bothers you, let her know that it feels wrong to you.

Name-calling and accusations can't be part of this conversation, though, or you'll just have another fight. Not everything that annoys you was done deliberately for that purpose. For example, it's the custom in many places that the man pays. If, when you talk with her, you find out that this is how she was raised, you'll know that she wasn't trying to make you feel bad, but good! And you can figure out a way she can contribute without making you feel bad!

A straightforward, honest discussion with your girlfriend is actually a great way to stay out of fights!

Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #3 -- Take a Step Back and Take it all In!

The things we fight about are frequently immaterial - it's the fighting itself and the general subject matter that might form patterns that are instructive. Something you might experiment with is this: look at the last few arguments and see if there's any common thread.

If your fights seem to focus on one or two specific issues, you should sit down together and calmly discuss those issues. If you feel bad when she does some particular thing, tell her so in those terms - don't attack or accuse her, just tell her "I feel embarrassed when you do X." Feelings aren't good or bad, they're just there. If you share your feelings about things, you'll understand each other better, and you'll find yourself paying attention to each other's feelings more. Problems have a way of shrinking, and solutions become more obvious, when the two of you are sharing and working together.

Frankly, this is what relationships are all about - sharing how you feel with her. You're in an adult relationship, not a competition, so stop trying to win and start really communicating. That way, you'll be able to put the petty bickering behind you and enjoy the lovely woman you call your girlfriend!