Put Your Golem In The Vault

A golem comes from medieval Jewish legend which is an automaton resembling a human being and given life by magic incantations. A golem is a monster which does not have victims well-being in mind. The golem revealed to movie audiences in "The Lord Of The Rings." In modern times, a golem can be viewed as a device from your dark side. We all have a light and dark side to our personalities which give us balance. We must accept the light and darkness of our souls and hopefully, choose to follow the light. There is no psycholigcal sense in denying the dark side for it is our reality of human life. The price of denial defines passive aggresive behavior. A person who denies normal anger, hides away the feeling and acts it out (it must have an outlet!) and does not experience normal hosilities, but, makes others feel the anger by passively expressing rage (always being late, not listening while others speak, unable to keep promises.)

HOW THE GOLEM GROWS

We all have a systematic personality growth system. We begin with our sense of self (ego) which is fueled by the life drivenemorous energy survival force (the id.) In order to contain and id force (we needed it to deal with our original dangerous environment) parents enter the picture and socialize us. Our last and on-going personality struture is called the super ego which contains all the shoulds, rules and lessons learned at our early care-givers' knees. The super ego is further fed when we enter the wider world with siblings, teachers, religious influences and peers. The information of right and wrong, with punishments and praises is not so much as what we hear, but how, as little beings, we decode the messages. As example, a parent may kiddingly say, "I love you so much I'd like to eat you up!" The child may believe that it will happen and devlope fears of lions eating their little bodies. Siblings can viciously tell a younger brother or sister that they were adopted and no one wanted them, perhaps causing that person to always feel left out of groups. Children may be cruely critized for behavior and store in the unconscious super ego mind that they are not deserving of pleasure, compliments and success. When the super ego is overly constrictive, I call it The Golem.

Lucily, the super ego, since it is the last formation of our personalities, it is easiest to modify.

GETTING ACQUINTED WITH THE GOLEM

Check out your inner, critical voice. That voice will be negative, unrelenting, and thwart your attempts to feel satisfaction in your relationships, creativity, career and self worth. Some of the side effects of believing The Golem are: Unable to receive compliments, fear of courageous moves to better situations, lack of confidence regarding appearances, lack of trust in self and others, obsessive worries, anxiety surrounding change. We all know that voice which demeans and conquers our joy of life. Please make a list of the persistent message of 'undoing happiness' which we listen to.

PUTTING THE GOLEM IN THE VAULT

This successful approach to dealing with your golem involves visualization, and takes only a few moments of daily attention.
You will have more positive energy to enjoy life and all its pleasures without a inner voice of negativity.

1. Sit still and promise yourself to avoid editing the first images or feelings which come to mind.
2. Set aside guilt or embarrassment. You are not harming anyone because visualization is only in your mind and not an actual act of aggression to anyone.
3. Please form the first picture that appears to your mind's eye of what your personal Golem would look like - the shape and color. It does not always have to have human form, but can be anything. As an example, one women who suffered a jealous mother immediately saw the Witch Mother depicted in Snow White.
4. Look at yourself as if you were on a stage and see where The Golem lives on your outside body. n 5. Every morning, when you have a few moments alone (like brushing your teeth, fixing your hair)visualize grabbing The Golem, yell a message at it ("You can't have my day today!" "You're not taking away my happiness this time!") and visiualize throwing The Golem into a two foot thick steel vault. Slam the door!
5.You can do this several times a day, when, if at first, you may not have shut the door hard enough. Do not judge yourself, but just perform the visualization again.
6. Do this every morning for the rest of your days.

ENERGY RESULTS

When you take the active approach to dealing with this section of your dark side your will release energy you have given over to listening to The Golem's instructions for unhappiness. Released energy does not float into the universe but is turned back into ourselves and flows into the sense of self as a worthwhile person. Most people who practice The Golem In The Vault visualization discover a new and delightful surge of purpose and enjoyment.nn n