Five Practices To Stay Away From While On a Date.
1. Competition. This is not the place to judge yourself, your Ex-, your achievements, with his or hers.
2. Skill. Having to project how good you are at being a good partner is unnecessary consideration and that will manifest.
3. Chance. Recall that you were not forced to go on this date. Ultimately, there is no chance involved.
4. Endurance. A date is not a contest to see who can last the longest at being entertaining and intelligent.
5. Rules. Hard and fast rules are a choking point to possibility.
Five Things To DO When Dating.
1. Play. Though these may sound simple, I'd bet a lot of you don't look at dating as a playful exercise. Remember a time when you were the carefree kid making castles in the mud? How sublime was that? Not a care in the world, no one to prove yourself to. Simply muddy fun! Look for ways to go into your date with fun. Even if your date is a serious type. Make the game of the night to look for fun. You do not have to see him or her in the future if they cannot play and have fun. Using the Law of Attraction is amazingly helpful for
Relationship Attraction, and it's not difficult to understand.
2. Laugh. A cousin to Play, laughing is the most infectious way to release happiness. Before heading out on any date, most importantly, the first date, tell yourself that you'll consciously look for a reason to feel wonderful and laugh. Smile as much as possible. At the waitress or waiter, at the hostess. Just smile for no reason.
3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Meaningful listening means when you shut off the monologue in your brain and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, the critic in your head may be desiring to chime in for a variety of reasons. You don't like the way he eats his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Stuff like that can be distractions. Simply notice yourself being distracted and pull yourself back into the present. Again, you don't have to see them again if you do not want to. This is an important practice, however, and it's a building block for intimacy. You'll want to adopt this practice in your long term relationship, so why not get your practice in now. Just so you know, you do not need to listen exclusively in the dating world. You can manifest your own
Law of Attraction Relationships right now and sky-rocket your level of positive energy!
4. Eye Contact. Do not just make eye contact and nod your head. Engage in deep listening while maintaining eye contact. Practicing this is an excellent display of your own generosity. And I can assure you, your generosity will return to you. If you need the support of a
Law of Attraction Coach, by all means get support! Having an unbiased listener to talk to can help you move away from old patterns much more quickly.
5. Communicate. When it's your time to talk, strive for clarity and being heard. As you've given your attention to your date, expect the same. You haven't interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption happens, request the same manners. You can be polite and kind about it without causing it to be a problem. Simply nicely ask for what you would like. Being confident in this takes much pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you want.
It does not matter if you are 25 or 75 in the dating scene - just enjoy life - if approached as a fun game, one in which there are no losers, your date will function much more smoothly for everyone.