Relationship games... can you spot yours?

So-called "love" can manifest in many different ways, one of those is the seemingly natural exercise of playing serious games in a mature relationship. These relationship games are unlike our typical flirting games employed early on in a dating capacity as they are far from fun, chronic, destructive, and wield a powerful manipulative force over the victims. Men and women alike are responsible for these and most relationships fall under 3 broad categories, the 3rd being "game-free"

Level 1: Dependence

In this relationship the man is the “bread winner” and holds most of the strength in the relationship. He works a lot and earns the money, but doesn’t show the love/affection needed to his partner. The woman on the other hand resents the fact that he is out working most of the time and doesn’t show her the attention she feels she deserves. She demands of him tasks and chores to be done, and nags at him when he doesn’t either do them properly or within the time frames that she has demanded. He defends himself that he’s busy, he’s working, earning, or otherwise. They dig themselves deeper into this pattern of demanding, nagging, lack of cooperation, until mutual resentment sets in. She has no way to control his behaviour and turn him around to what she wants so she typically stops “putting out”. This may in turn lead him to look outside the relationship for sexual fulfillment and ultimately, hearts are broken.

Level 2: Independence

Desiring not to repeat the sins of their parents, the next generation responds by going the opposite way. The woman will work to prove to herself and to him that she doesn’t need a man to provide for her and can look after herself, indefinitely. She can work just as hard as any man can and may power through the business world earning her keep and supporting herself and her man. She is running on negative male energy and is likely to be aggressive and domineering. The complementary man in this case is seeking to chill-out, relax, and not stress, but basically will not provide for her or the family. He will be running a lot of negative female energy and will rely on her for sustenance and financial support and generally be quite dull and unintelligent, with little or no motivation other than to enjoy himself. He’s weak, boring, selfish and likely a little chaotic. While they are both “together”, they are living quite independently with little or no cooperation.

Level 3: “Gender Synergy”

This is the place to be. Both male and female are running predominantly their respective positive energies that complement one another. The man is providing for her and the family with the help of inspiration and support from his partner. She is supportive, nurturing and loving, while he is strong, focused and empowered. Everything they do is with the intention for the betterment of themselves and each other. She trusts him 100%, and he naturally raises himself to meet this expectation. His desire is to be free, and she allows him that. Her desire is to be safe and secure, and he strives to provide this with everything that he does.

Naturally, everyone makes mistakes and doesn’t always perform at peak or correctly, but intentions are pure. She is connecting with her inner-Goddess, while he is honouring it, looking only to serve, since doing so, in his own way and his own time is what empowers him most.