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Relationships: Can A Past Life Connection Cause Someone To Stay In A Dysfunctional Relationship?

Topic: Self-Esteem and Self ConfidenceBy Oliver JR CooperPublished Recently added
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If someone was to come to the conclusion that they are in a relationship that is not very healthy, they could look into what they could do to change it. Through taking this approach, it will give them the chance to see if anything can be done.

There will most likely be what they will need to do and then, there will be the part that their partner needs to play. So, if they are both willing to do what needs to be done, it might only be a matter of time before this area of their life changes.

A Dead End

Then again, one may find that their partner says that they are willing to change, but that’s as far as it goes. This could be something that they will end up saying more than once, which will make it clear that they are all talk and no action.

At the same time, their partner could make out that their relationship is fine or they could say that they themselves are not the ones who need to change. Either way, it will be crystal clear that their relationship is not going to get any better; in fact, it is likely to get a lot worse.

Moving Apart

One can then cut their ties with this person or they can continue to stay in a relationship that doesn’t serve them. If they move on, it will allow them to heal and to look into what they may need to do to find a more suitable match.

On the other hand, if they stay with this person, they will be undermining themselves. If they do stay with them, what they may find that they are no longer emotionally connected to them.

It’s Finished

The emotional part of their being may have ended up shutting down in order to protect themselves from pain. To be in touch with how they felt may have been too painful, especially as their partner is no longer responding to their needs.

They can then live together but it can be as if they live a million miles away from each other. At this point, it will be a relationship that takes a lot from them and gives them very little in return.

Inner Conflict

For their own sanity, it will be essential for them to muster up the courage and to move on with their life. What will make this easier is if they reach out for the support of friends and family, for instance.

After all, one is not their own island; they are an interdependent human being. What can also help is for them to think about how much worse their life will be if they don’t break up with their partner.

A Slightly Different Scenario

Now, if one is in a dysfunctional relationship it will be bad enough, but it could be even worse if they are with someone who they have a really close bond with. What this could mean is that they are with someone who they have been with before.

However, this won’t be someone who they were with a few months or even a few years ago; it will be someone who they had a relationship with in a previous life. On one level, being with this person will be causing them all kinds of problems but, on another level, they can feel like they are supposed to be together.

A Strong Attachment

One may have tried to make their relationship better and their partner may have also tried, yet it won’t have taken the relationship down a different path. If one didn’t see this person as someone who they have a past life connection with, they may have left a long time ago.

Being with this person will be having a negative effect on their mental and emotional health, yet another part of them will be holding on. To this part of them, leaving this person could be seen as something that would cause their life to come to an end.

Another Perspective

If one was to open up to someone else about what they are going through, they could end up being told that they are addicted to this person. And that what is holding them together is anything but love.

After hearing this, one could dismiss what this person has said, believing that they simply doesn’t understand. Alte
atively, this could have a profound effect on them, making them realise how toxic their relationships actually is.

Back To Their Senses

If this does happen, one will be able to pay attention to what is happening now, not what happened in another life. Focusing on what is going on now, and allowing this to dictate how they behave, will be far better for their wellbeing than focusing on what happened a long time ago.

Or to be more accurate, it will be far better than focusing on what is happening in another life that is also happening now, as the past and even the future are all supposed to be taking place in the ete
al now. Anyway, it will be their current life that they need to pay attention to and to allow this to govern their decisions.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they can see that they are hooked on someone who is not a good match for them, they may need to reach out for exte
al support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

During this time, they may need to work through trauma that they experienced as a child as well as trauma that they experienced in another life.

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About the Author

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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