Resolve To Be Real in 2010

Here we are, another year ending, a new one beginning. 2009 was a bizarre year to be sure. Many are now breathing sighs of relief and hope.

2010 will be a year of new beginnings like never before. Opportunities to create exactly what you want will be everywhere. Here are some things to consider when making your resolutions for this new year and decade:

1. Find the gifts from 2009

Sure, it was an ick year for many in different ways but the year also contained many gifts so take time to ponder them. Did a relationship or job end? What new experiences/opportunities followed? What have you learn about yourself? What positive things came out of seemingly negative experiences? The gifts are there so find them. This will allow you to let go of the negative from 2009 and begin 2010 in a good place.

2. Connect with more of who you are

Huh? What in the world does that mean? It means get to know you. Discover your gifts, use them regularly and begin to live your purpose. Identify your truths and your beliefs. This will impact the choices you make and the outcome of those choices. Begin to know the true worth and value you possess, not looking to others to give it to you. You will have more rewarding, healthy and sustainable relationships this way. Forgive others by looking for the understanding in situations. This will deepen your compassion towards others and yourself. Spend a little time with yourself this year.

3. Learn what matters to you

Big changes are happening in our lives resulting in a shift in priorities and perspectives. What matters to you, really? Think about what you want and then think about why you want it. This will make all your experiences more rich, fulfilling and meaningful.

4. Take baby steps

When making changes this year, make the process elegant. You don’t need to make drastic changes all at once, as an all or nothing scenario. You can if you want but if you aren’t comfortable with that pace, ease up on yourself. Take baby steps and gradually incorporate the changes.

5. Create moments of peace

Life is chaotic these days. We’re running around doing 100 things at once, managing unexpected life changes, not knowing what to do next, how to move forward or what the future holds. Take time daily or weekly to do something that you love, such as running, art, playing an instrument, cooking, etc. Do this regularly and it will calm you, center you and allow clarity to come through. You can’t get perspective on things with squirrels in your head so create these moments of peace and the clarity will come.

6. Create community

We’re not in this alone so let go of the need to do everything all by yourself. Connect with friends more often. Reach out to family members, even estranges ones. Get to know your neighbors. Smile at strangers. Exchange services and items when possible. Lend a helping hand and ask for a hand when you need help. The time of “me, me me” is over so connect with each other in this new year and find comfort all around you. Now there’s a good reason to exhale, yes?

7. Consciously choose

Life is about choices. Every action or inaction is a choice in the making. Take responsibility for your choices and your feelings. If you don’t like the outcome of your choice, simply make another choice. Forgive yourself if necessary then let it go. Truth resides in the heart which is at the root of choice. Speak your truth and act your truth. This will also result in easy resolution to conflict and uncomfortable situations. Have integrity and settle for nothing less from others.

2010 can be a stellar year. Stay open to all the possibilities. Trust yourself, trust your higher power and trust the flow of life. Stay aware of your defeating thoughts, beliefs and behaviors. You can create an amazing life regardless of what is going on around you. Trust that, believe that and watch the miracles occur!