Rushing to Find a Partner by Christmas Might Mislead You. Be Careful Not to Shoot Yourself in the Foot!

INTRODUCTION

As long as you run the dating-marathon in order to have a relationship by Christmas rather than taking the time to contemplate you past failures and learn what to change, you might fail once again!

DON’T SHOOT YOURSELF IN THE FOOT!

Is it possible that due to so many dates you have been going on you don’t “see” anymore the uniqueness of the individual you meet? Could it be that as long as you continue running the dating-marathon you won’t “see” what you need to change in order to succeed? Is it possible that if you stop the race and take the time to think and reflect about issues you haven’t before, you’ll understand how to develop the relationship you so much desire – if not by Christmas, then by next Valentine’s Day?

BE CAREFUL NOT TO DO GHINGS ON AUTOMATIC PILOT

We often do things on automatic pilot, without thinking too much why we do them and if they’re helpful. Regardless of how many dates we go on, we might be behaving – out of force of habit – exactly the same on all dates. Even if we’re unsuccessful to extend any of them to a meaningful relationship, we may still continue behaving the same as always, not knowing otherwise.

It is only when we allow ourselves to stop running the marathon and take some time to carefully think about where we are, where we want come to and what we need to change in order to get there, that we can empower ourselves to be able to (finally) develop a meaningful relationship.

INVEST TIME IN KNOWING YOURSELF

With the holidays approaching, invest time in yourself: get to know and understand yourself, develop Self-Awareness, ask yourself questions you haven’t before and contemplate how to change whatever needs change.

Understanding why you haven’t been successful in developing a meaningful relationship until now and knowing yourself better will empower you to make the necessary changes required to find and develop the relationship you so much desire – if not by Christmas then by Valentine’s Day.

Investing in knowing yourself is a time worth-taking.

QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF

1. Do you feel that:

* You are running a dating-marathon, needing to go on as many dates as possible?
* “There is no time to spare”?
* “There are many competitors along the way?
* You must practice running 24/7 in order “to make it”?
* The way to your “goal” is paved with humps, but “at the end of the run” you’ll succeed?
* You’ll finally meet someone with whom to develop the relationship you have dreamed about for so long?

2. Are you disappointed that:

* “It” takes longer than what you’ve originally thought it will take?
* The time shrinks with each passing day?
* This “special person” hasn’t even been seen on the horizon yet?

3. Can you:

* Explain to yourself what’s going on?
* Understand why you haven’t succeeded to develop a meaningful relationship yet?
* Figure out if there is anything you need change in your approach before you “miss the train” altogether?

THINKING IT ALL VERY CAREFULLY, COULD IT BE THT:

* First of all you need to overcome whichever panic you might be feeling?
* The only way you might indeed “miss the train” is by continuing racing non-stop?
* You are currently sabotaging all chances to develop a meaningful relationship, without even knowing that you do?
* As long as you will not know how you shoot yourself in the foot you won’t know what and how to change?

ISN’T IT THEN NECESSARY FOR YOU TO:

* Find a way to (finally) understand what’s going on?
* Get to know and understand yourself better, realize what you do which stands in your way from being able to develop a meaningful relationship?
* Stop finding various justifications for not succeeding, take responsibility for your failure(s) and contemplate what to do?

If you want to find the way, understand yourself and know what to do, then:

DEVELOPING SELF-AWARENESS IS THE WAY

The best way for you to give yourself answers to all these questions, to find out what you do wrong which sabotages your attempts at establishing a meaningful relationship and learning what you need to do differently, is by developing Self-Awareness. This is a process by which you get to know and understand things about yourself you haven’t before, a process through which you become empowered to change “quantity-dating” into “quality-dating”, and become able to extend a date into a meaningful relationship – if not for Christmas then by next Valentine’s Day!